Porn has distorted my view of real women

Howdy folks…. I had a “light bulb” moment last night that I want to share. I’m an old dude (48), been divorced for almost 8 years, and painfully single during that entire time. I have had a very difficult time meeting women, especially single, interesting women close to my age. Ask my friends, and they would say that my constant story is that the small city I live in has nothing but nasty, dull middle age women and hot, young college girls.

And so I have had a thousand fantasies about hooking up with young college girls or younger women in their 20’s. I’ve even paid a few for their company and sex. All because “what else am I going to do?”

Light bulb moment: I see the situation this way because of 35 years of PMO. I have created this mental image in my head of “the only good women are young, hot, sexual….” in other words, women that I’ve seen in porn. I’ve always gone for the “amateur” types in porn (I know, most of that is faked, too), but they are all young and hot, too. Even MILFs in porn are young-ish and hot! But this view of what women are like is amazingly distorted to say the least!

Basically, I think I walk around the world completely ignoring real women. Real women with flaws, imperfections, issues, etc, but who are in reality lovely, interesting, engaging and REAL. Not pixels or ink on a page. Real, real women.

I’m EXTREMELY interested to see what happens in 90-120 days. How will my brain react to real world women, actual flesh and blood? Will I still live in a city populated with nothing but old skanks and hot young things? Or will I slowly start noticing that I live in paradise? We shall see!

Rebooting results originally posted by nofappinwaymo from NoFap on reddit (source)

11 thoughts on “Porn has distorted my view of real women”

  1. Hey guys, am 18 years old with 5 yaers of pmo and its vices. I have lived a terrible life all this long. It has now been 52 days since i stopped pmo and The results have overwhelmed me. I hope i could tell you guys everything. I became more confident, more calm, my anxiety went away, more concentrated and many more… Guys, I Beg you, Stop PMO and see what happens. Your life will never be yhe same again. PMO KILLS AND DESTROIS LIVES OF INNOCENT ONES. Hope you will all recover and Live a more fulfilling life. Gud luck all. No PMO, yes to Life.

  2. Thanks for your share. It’s not just Pmo; it’s our whole society. Sex has become the opiate, the drug without which life is implied to be not worth living. You are not fully alive if you are not in a hot sexual romance. “Since I met you I’ve come alive”. “There were birds in the trees but I never heard them singing til I met you”. Sex in the city, sex lies and videotape, the Cosmo quiz, it’s endless. It’s all to sell products, but the message resonates through life itself- unless you’re in love you’re half dead, a walking zombie. We are beginning to question the message. We are turning off the porn. I’ve been sober from prob and masturbation for 22 years in SA. I have a good marriage. Stay with it. Sobriety will find you. Cheers, Bill

  3. Thanks for your advise am 15 and i’ve decided to stop porn and masturbation and you guys are really helping out.
    thanks

  4. am 17 and am in the first day off .,,inow i have a lot to go ,.. you really change my vision of life
    i wish if you include arabic language.

  5. Hi I’m 14, this is my first day off pmo and I just want to say I’m thankful for this, really. I picked this up from someone I was watching and I’m just over the pmo and not being able to feel comfortable by girls and talking to girls.. I know this is day 1 and I have many more days to go but I promise this is going to feel good in the long run for me and for everyone else that stops pmo. I hope this gets to someone and someone can see this and stop pmo because of me also.

  6. Hey just finished a 7days but I relapsed…it’s a bit hard getting back on the horse but during the 7days I spoke to random pple and it was almost as if people on the road were looking at me like “why does he look so happy even without a smile”? more energy, walk around all day with bonerss I think it even grew bigger just bcos of more blood flow and tension I guess

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