Age 41 – After 30 days of quitting porn

Gentlemen and ladies,

I’m obligated to give a 30-day report, for reasons I will explain. Also, I know it will help me feel awesome.

With regard to superpowers, I’m not running my own company (yet) or making fashion models drop their shopping bags in awe, but I am having consistent small successes and victories in my life which, taken together, do add up to the miraculous, especially relative to how I was living and felt 31 days ago.

Most days, I don’t feel my life has changed that much (other than no PMO). But I have a sense that a seed is planted and swelling to life, that a tide has turned, and that massive, massive change is afoot. I glimpse it in small (yet huge) ways almost every day.

I think the foundation for all of this higher self-esteem. Not arrogance, or even confidence much of the time, but a stronger sense at my core that I am valuable and that I can handle life. You feel it too, because you’ve made the same decision I have.

The result of this feeling is small-but-better decisions throughout the day, which are rapidly adding up to a better experience of life.

I “find myself” doing the following:

  • Getting up in the morning
  • Exercising every day
  • Looking women in the eye and speaking more confidently with them
  • Opening small conversations with strangers
  • Turning off video games in favor of something more productive
  • Closing internet tabs that are a time sink (YouTube, news sites, etc.)
  • Choosing to make that phone call to a friend, or answer the call that’s coming in
  • Choosing to go to that hobbyist meeting I’d been considering
  • Choosing to come clean with my therapist that I have a porn problem
  • Taking small steps on a half-dozen projects that I’ve intended to start for a long time but never have
  • Standing up straighter, holding my chest out a little more
  • Generally choosing, moment-to-moment, to move toward healthy/positive things and away from unhealthy/negative ones

Before, I would stay in bed all morning, or read internet bullshit for hours (often leading to PMO). Now my brain says, “You’re better than this,” and I get up, get out, and take positive action.

Then, immediately, my brain witnesses this change, and thinks, “Whoa, that’s new, that’s good” and my self-esteem gets another little uptick. Ultimately, I seem to be in a POSITIVE FEEDBACK LOOP, rather than the negative one that PMO created and gradually wore me down, down, down for, well, decades.

To be clear, this does not happen all day every day! Last night I wasted lots of time playing Plants v. Zombies! And I felt shitty about it. But I also did a shitload of productive things yesterday. And it’s the latter that resonates in my consciousness, which is what got me up this morning and writing this post to help you guys/gals (and to help myself!).

I have had a few external things that are inexplicable, but real:

  • I have had men at events/gatherings introduce themselves to me
  • I have had attractive women start conversations with me, and even blush at their own awkwardness (bizarre!)

Sexually, I’m basically dead. I’ve been more or less flatline since Day One, with only a hand full of half-mast erections. (Not literally a hand full, fuckers. I meant “a few”.) Actually this morning I had some wood coming and going that was stronger than I’ve felt yet. Mentally, I’ve very attracted to hot women, and check them out (not creepy tho), but I have zero physical response and no sense that I could perform if I got the opportunity.

But I don’t care! I mean I do, but I’m being patient. I’m actually grateful for the serenity and quiet, when so many of you are struggling every day to fight urges. My willpower has historically sucked, so I’m not sure I could stop myself.

So….so far, so good. I’m enjoying the slow awakening of my positive self, and hopefully, a new sexual self eventually. I feel hope for the first time in a long time. I’m sensing the early tremors of a massive life shift, and I hope it’s real.

Now, let me close with this:

The MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do for your recovery is to GIVE to others in recovery, and I’ve found no place better than here. YOUR opinion and experiences are valuable to others here, no matter how freaky or “unique.” In fact, the more oddball your experience, the more likely you will help that other oddball that is just like you and feels totally alone. YOUR support matters to someone else here, no matter how small or weird you feel on any given day.

If you take nothing else from this post, take this: Comment regularly on NoFap, especially a little deeper on the New pages on posts with zero comments. Also, post your own experience regularly on NoFap, both your victories and your struggles, ESPECIALLY as you get into longer streaks. There is a high percentage of Week 1 people here, and they need the insight, support, and inspiration of longer-streak folks.

Go support someone in the New section right now. I mean it!

Stay frosty, Faptains.

NoFap results originally posted by NoFap user iampowerlessover (source)

138 thoughts on “Age 41 – After 30 days of quitting porn”

  1. Good job, keep it up. I’m not saying porn is the devil or it’s evil It’s just plain and simply not good.It’s two strangers banging and laughing all the way to the bank. I’m no shrink but I can spot a porn user from a block away. They are twitchy fuckers and don’t look you in the eye. I’m off porn for about a month and I can simply say I’m starting to feel like when I was 16 looking at the victorias secret catalogue. It’s basically taking much less to get me interested or aroused. I don’t feel as anxious and just more comfortable in my own skin. I have more drive to get out in public and exercise or just interact with people. I never knew it would be this good. I’m just happy that I didn’t have a computer in high school or any access to porn besides an SI swimsuit issue. I kind of feel bad for todays teens going through puberty, it has to be negatively impacting their outlook on women. The porn stars don’t know who you are and could care less if it’s impacting you and you’r relationships. This no fap and porn thing is trickling into other areas of my life like beer consumption. It wasn’t the amount but the frequency of my drinking is now back drastically. Just look at the porn stars themselves they are all addicts stuck in a prison and if you keep viewing it regularly you will become the dishwasher in that prison.

    1. Thank you. I have been looking at joining this group for a couple of weeks. Even though I fapped this morning, I’ve decided! that there’s a better way and I’m going about to find and using NoFap as the first step and committing and embarking on a 90 day PMO free time.

      Let me start by giving back to you. I’m 45 and married. I’ve been on the PMO circle since I was 12. Recently I tried no PMO for about 6 days before I fapped. But during all 6 days I felt like you did, sexually dead, but when I did fap on that last day, I had a better erection than I’ve had in years and had an extremely strong orgasm. So rest assured, that feeling sexually dead and not having erections in the morning (same for me) doesn’t mean that you can’t perform with vigor when you’re called upon 😉

    2. So true. As a teen right now, the ease of access is a constant burden to fight. Thankfully, I have adopted bodybuilding as an outlet.Goo Luck everyone.

  2. Hey,
    Thanks for your update. It is very inspiring. I am 39 and been fapping since 14yr old. About a month ago I was awakened. I’m pretty freaked out by all of this, but am ready to jump on the nofap wagon. I actually went 7 days on my first attempt. Reset, on day 3 now. This is the first response or open admission on any of the many noFap sites I’ve visited, just been trolling till now. I know I need support and am planning on opening a reddit account today and getting a counter in place. Your story encouraged me. Thanks again.

  3. Far too much fapping been going on since early teens to date, 34yo right now, been struggling with this proper for 10 years. Found this site today following a ‘business insider’ article. Read your post ‘nofap fapstronout’, i’m officially inspired, nice not to feel alone and so utterly ashamed about all of this. Day 1 here we go. Thank you.

    1. Day one sucks! and so does the next and the next etc. it eventually get’s better man! kudos for day one. I’m on another Reset but on day 7! keep at it bro

  4. 35 and have been fapping since I was in my early 20s. On day four right now. I’ve made it a few weeks before but always fall back into my morning routine. My wife is not a morning person so I am left to entertain myself when wake up. It is a constant struggle. It’s so easy to just give in and do it but then the guilt, oh the guilt. I’m lucky the woman hasn’t left me.

  5. Keep going. I stopped when i got a girl, and couldnt finish inside for more than a month. But it gets better, and compensates. Im not cured yet, but i can be as much as a month without pmo.

    1. I’m really interested in your situation with the girl now. Does she know about your problem? How active sexually are you guys? Have you stopped porn and masturbation all together?

  6. Beautiful work, bro. The most widely spread untruth about male sexuality out there is that it’s “normal” for men to watch porn and masturbate. Normal? Sure, in the sense that it’s “normal” to want to drop trou and take a dump on a public street when the urge to defecate comes; or “normal” to want to grab a slice of pizza off someone’s plate when you’re hungry. These are all “normal’ instincts but we resist them in order to be civilized. So, “normal”? Sure, every guy has an intense urge to masturbate when aroused and teh vast majority of men watch pornography. “Normal” shouldn’t be the barometer here. Useful is a better metric. What are we trying to achieve–relationship, career goals, personal characteristics, whatever–and is pornography useful for that purpose? No, it’s not. Any other rationalization is bullshit.

  7. Great story with a plentiful and helpful level of detail. However, don’t beat yourself up about one or two solitary nights of straight gaming from time to time. Just don’t beat yourself off! The key to life is to ultimately have fun, you can’t just stress about being productive every waking moment of the day. To quote Kurt Vonnegut, “We are on this planet to fart around and don’t anyone else tell you different!”

  8. I am on the 7th day of fap abstinence. Hoping to last 90 days. But i am feeling so much depressed. Is it common to feel this way?

    1. John,
      It is. Specially if it’s a strong habit in your life. What you need to do is to change the routine. Start to know yourself.

  9. Its good to hear from men who are over 35! It seems that the vast majority of guys who are talking about this issue are young and have had high speed internet as a given almost their entire life! I will be 50 next month and grew up in a fanatically religious evangelical family (my dad was the pastor!) We were barely allowed to watch TV and only that because there was a TV in the house we moved into! My father has never bought a TV and when we moved out of that house when I as 11 that was the last time we had a TV in our home! My first experience with porn happened when I was about 9 and was a playboy magazine that some of my friends had hidden under a tree in the woods. I am gay so it was obvious to me at that time that what i was looking at did not have the same affect on me as it did my friends! I never even thought to wonder whether there were magazines with naked men in them. My erotic stimulation came from reading. I loved trashy novels and could hone in on the “sweet” parts of a book in less than one minute of picking it up! I was a voracious reader as a kid and this has been one of the benefits of this saga for me! I didn’t see any pictures of naked men until I was in my late teens and certainly no hardcore porn! I have always found the written word more erotically charging than photographic images and have always found the build up to the “juicy parts” more intriguing than actually getting there! I discovered print porn in my early 20’s when I went away to college and then video porn not to long after that. This might be hard to imagine but I didn’t even own a VCR until I was in my late 20’s!! I didn’t own a computer until I was in my mid 30’s and for the longest time only had dial up! All this to say that internet porn has only been in my life for less than 10 years. I have consumed quite a bit of it and also have masturbated quite a bit too. I don’t know whether I have ever developed an addiction to it or not but I have found it way easier to stop watching porn and even masturbating than the stories I have seen on this site. To tell the truth I was beginning to get bored with porn anyway. I have always disliked studio porn as it is way too fake. When I discovered that there were sites like xtube where real people post videos of themselves having sex or masturbating then things got really hot for a while!! But then it just became too much of an effort to find ones that were good video quality…lol! So three weeks ago I decided to stop watching porn and masturbating to see what would happen. There were so many claims on these message boards of increased mental clarity, focus, energy, attractiveness etc so I thought I probably had nothing to lose! Since then I have masturbated twice, both times with a week between and have watched porn maybe for 10 minutes. My libido has been very low but at my age I am not shocked at that. I have not been going crazy to watch porn or to masturbate and am still waiting for the great things guys speak of to start happening. One thing I will say is that my penis seems more sensitive and when I did masturbate I got off very quickly and very strongly. I like the build up of sexual energy but have not felt overly bothered with horniness or the need to either watch porn or masturbate. I love to work out so a lot of my energy already went into that. I have never had a wet dream in my life…yes, even as an adolescent…which I attribute to my extremely strict and controlling religious upbringing that encouraged (required!!) strong self control. In fact for me the greatest struggle I have had as far as sexuality in general is letting go and enjoying it!

  10. Wow these comments are extremely inspiring. The internet may have been the cause of my porn addiction, but I think the online community is the only thing thats making it possible for me to persevere in my efforts to quit porn. 20 now, and started PMO around 10, so been going at it for a while and relied entirely on PMO for sexual stimulation during my primary formative years. My longest time without PMO was a month. What a difference that made! I consider myself a generally confident person, but felt even more confident and fewer insecurities. I secured for myself a really cool, pretty, friends-with-benefits during that time. Unfortunately, Libido was extra low during this time and couldn’t get it up for more than 10 minutes; extreme case of delayed ejaculation, needed to masturbate furiously to finish. In fact thats what prompted me to start NoFap. Definitely noticed increased sensitivity and have a much stronger response to sexual stimuli, like pictures (although my libido is lower). Instead of feeling it only in my penis, I would feel a rush of lightheadedness just from being touched; this definitely would not have happened while I was fapping regularly. Anyways, thanks for the support guys. Haven’t been able to abstain for more than a week since my last successful effort, but its awesome to hear from guys who are having just as much difficulty but are still persevering. My other motivation to stay with NoFap is this beautiful girl ive been talking to recently. Things seem to be headed in the right direction 🙂 C’ya guys later, and keep up the good fight! Porn is harming our men both socially and sexually!

  11. The first week was very hard. I can’t sleep and only had 3-4 hours. I read that no matter what happens don’t give in. So what I did 3 am in the morning was to stare at nowhere. It’s like my body is adjusting and came to the moment that it was painful but I persevere. I feel like I have a surge of energy coming to me that I can’t control. To tire myself. I did push-ups and after that cooked a meal just to keep myself busy and it’s 3 am in the morning. Kinda weird, eh? Now I’m on my day 18 and feeling better. If you’re feeling depressed, try to feel anger. It’s better. Then you’ll feel frustration and then hope. From hope, it’s kinda easy from there.

  12. This is great – I love reading stories that make me feel less alone. It’s power to keep fighting urges.

    At 23, having been raised on the Internet, giving it up hasn’t been easy. This is my first post here, but I’ve been struggling and trying my damnedest to give it up for 5 months. My longest stretch was about 7 weeks. Through the amazing graces of my committed girlfriend we are working through it together – I’ve started seeing a therapist, riding my bike, writing music. I’m about a month in to no fapping – that doesn’t mean it’s easy! – but as the first dude said, the little victories feel huge.

    I’m looking forward to support from this community and to supporting others in need. Thanks.

  13. nice that you added something about giving back to the community. I think that’s what helps us be strong. Thanks for sharing your story. I can attest that after several more 30 day runs, the progress is constant and you can expect to go far. Keep up going in the positive directions. Good job, man.

  14. Hi, just want to say I’m 42 and June 2014 I met the most beautiful (and smokin hot ) woman I’ve ever know… Last Aug we tried to have sex and I couldn’t get it up…. Since then we tried about 5 more times over the course of the year with the same results , just couldn’t get it up….. About a month ago I open up to someone about my problem the advise they have me was to stop master aging to porn….. I quite masterbating (only 3 times in the month) and quite porn all together… When I masterbated I thought only of my girl (who actually stick by my side for a whole year) I’m happy to say last night I f&*ked the shit out of her with one of the hardest erections I’ve had in a long while…. So hang In there, there’s hope……….ps stay off the craigslist ads n try not to think about sex fantasies in your mind…..

  15. Hello guys and gals!

    Nice to read this post! I’m 41 and have the same problem… Well, I don’t know if I still have “the problem” because I decided to quit. It’s only my second day today but I felt encouraged by the comments on this site.

    Thank you all!!!

    Alex

  16. I’m 36 and this is something I have also struggled with since I was 12. I thought it would go away after losing my virginity, then getting married, then having kids… but the addiction just got stronger. The “P” always led to the “MO” 100% of the time. However, eventually the “P” wasn’t even required. The “MO” became the main addiction, and I needed it like medicine to wake-up, decompress from work, and go to sleep. If I only had 30 minutes to get out the door – “MO” was the medicine. If I had a whole hour to get out the door – “PMO” was the medicine… which would end up making me an extra hour late getting out the door, because I spent a whole hour trying to find the right (scratch that – PERFECT) video to masturbate to. I’m glad to say this is NoFap day 26 for me and it was easy in the beginning, now it’s getting a bit difficult (I had to delete Instagram and Pinterest from my phone). Every night I have dreams of full blown sex. These dreams use to end right when the sex was about to begin (thanks alarm clocks), but now I go all the way every night. Some advice: when you wake up to morning wood… hurry up and piss! Get out the bed and get uncomfortable quick!

  17. Isn’t that crazy to think about. I’m 40. I’ve been an addict since I was 19. I am on my second day NoFap as you guys call it and I have often had the same thought. I could be a lawyer, doctor, Olympic athlete, billionaire or all of the above if I had channeled the time and energy wasted everyday for over 20 years. I love these forums and appreciate the encouragement of a community that understands my mental anguish.
    Thanks to all

  18. I am 27 and I am working in pharma industry i had stopped doing musterbating but i started from last 2 month. 20 days ago I go to company and i take fumes of toluene and xylene in a huge then after that i felt i have no penis or no erection and fully inside the body.I musterbate daily 4 times against matters during 7 days of taking fumes. Now i think my veins gets weak.I am very afraid because I am unmarried and thinking that how i I’ll do sex with wife after marriage.Suggest me a better way to make my mind cool and hopefull.

  19. Hey good to hear good progresses from everybody here!
    I am at day 10 and I had a very sexy dream last night and I woke up with a boner. Really hard today to not give it a hand-shake if you know what I mean. Does anyone have some tricks to resist these moments of temptation? Please not the usual push-up and jogging advice though…

  20. Hello! Thanks for sharing. I have been struggling to quit for about a year. I can never last more than a week without going back to my regular one to two times a day. I think I would experience a lot of what you’ve attained if I could get it down to once a week. Thanks for reading and I’d appreciate any input…

  21. Encouraging to read. I have gone a year doing the same. However, the last month I have had a lot of stress at work, and have hadde several serious setbacks. It has now come to the point where Iam starting to completely lose control and I dont know what to do…

  22. A few diversions and ideas. I am 44 and this is my 13th day in to a 30 days nofap challenge. I have done a 30 days hard reset twice in the last 2 years. Something that I thought I could never do. I have always wanted to take my addiction under control but could never do. Since I have master my penis, my will power gets stronger. Which allows me to do something like 3 days water fast.

    What helped me and I did not know it before was going on a 80-85% vegan or non-animal diet. It lowered my sex drive enough that I was about to obtain after 3 months into. I learned later that there are 3-4 herbs that does the same thing, it lowers one’s sex drive. And the fasting will also lower one’s drive too. If you tax your body with low energy, your libido will dive; your unconscious will not be making you grab that meat saucer.

    Diversion? Try doing PE that is penis enlargement! If you exercise and fatigue it, it will not give you trouble. Doing PE requires will power and discipline. Try also extreme edging; that is sperm retention; also known as male multiple orgasm. I know it is trading one addiction for another so beware.

    Taking control of my penis have given me the power to control my orgasm. This is one HUGE reward for increasing your will power. My 30 days nofap is to prove to myself that I can enjoy the power of sex and not be a slave to it.

  23. Hi thanks for sharing your story. I am 47 years of age and i wasted 30 years of my life on PMO, so i know how gradual my recovery is going to be. I am 2 and a half weeks into NoFap and i have had many many attempts at quitting PMO since i turned 40 years of age, and i was relapsing over and over again.
    This community is literally a life saver for me, as i found that prior to finding this there was very little information out there for PMO addicts like ourselves to find solutions to this destructive addiction that robbed me of many years of my life.
    I feel so enthusiastic about this that i aim to eventually help others conquer this addiction and transform their lives for the better.
    As for where i am on a positive note i am beginning to get me back, because i lost myself for many years in that existence. I am looking to improve my relationship with myself and i really feel like something great is occuring where this is concerned. Anyway i won’t ramble on . Again thank you for sharing your account of your recovery.

  24. Today 11/10/2016 marks day 1 of my journey… i worked out today for the first time in almost a year also…. i must make this change. I dont plan on commenting again til my 30 day mark! Good luck to u all

  25. Thanks for the post. It’s helpful to just know that I’m not alone and there are others who understand. I’m starting Day 11 of the ninety day reboot.

  26. hey! that’s great! the longest I have ever gone is about 22 days. I am going to go for 30 days now! I get these crazy urges and almost feel like it will never go away (i know it will but it feels like it wont) any tips guys?
    what do you guys do when you get urges?

  27. Thank you for your testimony. I’m 23 and now close to day 30 of nofap. I’m a Christian who has began to take his religion very seriously, so quitting porn and anything sexually arousing in general was a no brainer for my spiritual conquest.

    When I think about the positive side effects, there is only a few. One of the best being the fact that I’m not constantly beating myself up in an endless pit of shame. Actually, that’s a huge plus!

    I do indeed find myself more attracted to women. I haven’t really had the chance to be around women in a social or work environment since I’ve started this, but I’m interested to find out once I am able to find employment in my local area.

    Through my teens I suffered with depression. And threw my young adulthood I’ve suffered with anxiety. The depression is most definitely gone, and I feel as though my anxiety is going away as well.

    The most notable difference is my loss of interest in drowning out my reality with things like Marijuana and Kratom. My addiction to Marijuana has almost completely disappeared. Last time I smoked, it just wasn’t the same. I enjoyed it, but it was nothing I wanted to seek again afterwords. Kratom was a waste of money for me as well. I’ve come to enjoy being sober again. This is the biggest plus.

    Of course, I can’t end this post without giving credit where credit is due. I wouldn’t have gotten this far if it wasn’t for my Heavenly Father through daily prayer and repentance. My faith is at an all-time high, and I feel control slowly slipping back into my grasps. I WILL NOT GIVE UP NOW, NOR EVER AGAIN.

    At the 30 day mark, I’m going to attempt at fasting for 3 days. I hope my willpower has reached a new watermark by then.

  28. Wow! That was really interesting. You gave me more motivation to stop watching porn. I feel very grateful for your work and time.

  29. I have struggled for years with porn addiction. A few years ago with the help of a therapist I was able to make it for seven months. To be honest since then life has been better even when i view porn because i know i able to stop again. I find myself going on streaks of a month or two without porn. The most effective tool I have found is talking to my wife about it. I have asked her to follow up with me on Saturdays and ask how i did this week. The good side is when she asks I find myself motivated and I can make it a few more days knowing I do not want to have to admit to looking at porn and feeling weak. The down side is if she forgets to ask I use it as a justification believing nobody cares and that i am stupid to work so hard to quit.
    Anyway life is great and all these posts make me believe it is worthwhile.

  30. thanx for sharing this useful information sir. it’s my day 1. and i am feeling encouraged for my journey ahead after hearing from yo fellas. carry on.

  31. Day 5
    I think I was going on well till today when something stupid developed in ma mind (which is why i visted the platform).Can’t wait to see the 30 days challenge come to an end so i can then head on to the 90days challenge. Otherwise thank you for the amazing story buddy!

  32. Thanks for sharing I’m on day 14. I ve started working out and doing more activities that I use to but neglected due to pmo -like running -. Also I am able to get a lot more done. My mood swings are bad but I try to deal with them in abstract ways i.e. spiritually and immediately changing my train of thought. I haven’t been this clean in 12 years. What pmo has done for me is screwing up my short term memory, my social skills and overall my overall ability to give myself a fair shot at a normal life. Thanks for sharing everyone.

  33. I’m in my 10th week without seeing porn. It is very difficult. My mood gets worse and I get angry a lot. I hope all this improves and I can take it a little longer. It is encouraging to read them to you.

  34. I think it would help for you to have control over what you think throughout the day. Stop thinking about PMOing, and when you do feel like thinking about it, then think why its wrecking your day,month, or life.

  35. very inspiring man. im happy that you see the bright side of life and that you are real with yourself yet optimistic. keep it up!

  36. Very cool man i’m in day 5 now, just the begining of the journey,, but i’m hope this journey last forever, it’s so fucking cool what this did to me in just 5 days, i hope my life get even better!
    Thanks!

  37. Thank you for your story it saved me at day 5. I am homered to have read all these stories and yours from great people who are strong and I feel it will rub off on me ;). Stay strong my brothers. I have faith in everyone out there.

  38. I’m just get starting with NoFap. This is my 1st day. I wish get successful of this! Thx for ur story, it’s inspirational!

  39. I don’t believe I’m addicted to porn but it is ruining my relationship. I go months without watching and one day have the urge to just watch it then I begin to do some edging until one day I masturbate then it’s back to nothing for months. I’m scared to tell my girlfriend that this is the issue but she’s ready to leave me.

  40. I’m in 21 days. Going strong for the reboot. But exactly after 21 days when the semen storage gets full. I get a wet dream. This is the first time in life I had a wet dream. I don’t know how to comprehend this. Has my 21 day success gone in vain?

  41. I’m sexually desensitized because of porn and fapping. I’ve had problems with ED since I was like 15. Hope shit changes.
    Anyone know how long it will take?

  42. My day 1 and i’m excited along with a bit of scariness about how this journey will be. I wish i should have reached to this stage. 🙁

  43. Hey Ten Toes,

    I’ve struggled with PMO since I was 7. Your porn-induced ED will definitely go away. However, I highly recommend letting your body fully reset. Maybe give it 6-12 months?
    (that may sound like a long time, but it really isn’t).
    I’ve heard plenty of older men losing their ED over that period of time.

    Best of luck my friend! I’m on day 5 ?

  44. Thanks friends for the inspiring story

    I can not say anything anymore

    I just feel a sense of gratitude for finding a site where people share experiences to get out of that vicious cycle

  45. hey friend I am on and off guy and very much worried that how long I will take time to recover. when I recovering I feel that I will do never this evil act …after 15-20 days on fine all of sudden I slipped hep me……………

  46. I am just on Day 28 after many tries of quiting P forever of my life. I mean FOREVER and NEVER watch P movie or play P game or Erotic game (which I have played) or read so called E-stories or comics or so. I want give it ALL avay from my mind. I am 50. Yes, you read it right, it is 50. I am IT,so I know how to unblock anti-porn block or how to watch without leaving history. The most important is the lust for P. HOW THE LUST FOR P CAN BE AFTER ABOUT 30 DAYS THE SAME? Please help. I want to not watch P more then 30 days, minimal 60 or even better for 90 days. I did it once. But the LUST for P is the same.

  47. stranger but familiar

    Hi, i just want to say that an addiction means you cant stop. You will keep breaking your vow to never watch porn again, until you don’t. you have been in this a long time so you need to rewrite the script. You need to learn to talk positively. even when you break. the better you get at that the closer you get to positivity within your life. keep going. Bruce lee once said that he didnt start counting his push ups till he thought his body couldn’t go on anymore. when you are in the moment of collapse that is when you hold off for longer and longer. peace

  48. Into my 5th week. This write up is exactly where I am at. I get a couple of morning woods a week and (sounds weird) afternoon thickness swelling just at random.

    Diet and this website site I HIGHLY RECOMMEND gave me a great step by step structure (truelibido.com). I just follow those steps cause it spells it out!

    To add to this:
    I workout 45min
    5 days a week
    3 sets of 8 reps,30 second rest between sets
    Butterfly bar, iron free weights
    – 3 sets arms curl, 3 sets military press every day
    – 3 sets squats and dead lifts everyday (good blood flow for groin)
    – 3 sets chest each 2nd day (lay on floor, dont let elbows touch ground)

    When it gets to easy, increase the weight.

    Eat healthy, plate should be 75% fresh dark green vegies, and 25% meat
    Eat a little fruit, eat some almonds (no salt)
    Get rid of anything in a can or has processed sugar
    Dont put sauce on the meat, just a little spice and lemon.

    STICK TO IT.

  49. Well said man. I’m on day 10ish and I can say I’m experiencing similar subtleties. I notice when I touch myself to scratch I’m not like desiring to continuing scratching for other purposes like I use too. Obviously its only 10ish days but I’m noticing these noticeable differences. Part of the reason is I think how I’m resetting my thinking. Throughout the day my desire to think about sex non stop or masturbating is wearing away…I feel more and more human. What’s very exciting is I actually starting running in the evening every other day or so, even in quite cold weather. My mind power gives me more strength to invest in my body in positive ways. Again, strangely exciting.

    Keep it up!

  50. He guys,I have just joined nofap as I am also a addict,u know of what.Its been a three year from the day when I started watching porn.I just want to give up now .I feel like I am done every time I mas… .guys I am preparing for an entrance exam and only 3 month r left for it,can I restore back my lost concentration and is there would be any I’ll effect on my exam due to PMO ,Plz reply.

  51. Thank you for that post, I’m 47 and it is very encouraging to hear what you have said, also the way you said it. Makes me feel like I made the right decision and that there is going to be some great support here and that I do, feel a little less of a pillock, and less alone.

    I have surfed porn for about 15 years, I don’t know when I became addicted but it has caused enough damage to me. I can’t believe it’s not better reported and that there is more to inform men about the danger, ho hum. Anyways you helped.

  52. reading takes ur mind off temptations. I quit fapping while reading Dr Robert Glover. I never looked back. 14 years addiction ended in two days.

  53. Hey new here

    Read your story truly inspiring, i too have been adicted to porn and masthrbation(daily basis) and i want to quit
    So thanks a lot

  54. I stumbled upon this site randomly, and am so thankful. I have been in a viscous cycle since I was 16 and now 35. Masturbation has been a part of my life almost every day. Ever year for lent I’ve given it up only to usually make it 2 days. My record is 11 but that was a strange accomplishment that wasn’t close to being copied again. I would say I am addicted to porn. I say that because when I try and stop, I can’t. The urge overtakes me and my will power evaporates. This website will be my key to breaking the cycle. I’m on day one but want to stop
    Until I get a wet dream. I’ve never had one. Hopefully during this pursuit I can break my porn addiction and regain power over my life. One day…many to go…

  55. Thanks for sharing. My PB is 36 days and you just inspired me to get back on it and reach 60 this time. Your right; it gradually wears one down over the years, but the self esteem does return. Just need to keep the healthy habits and stay on the right path.

  56. I have been a porn and masturbation addict since 2007. Before then, i used to be an ‘A’ student. Since i got addicted to porn, my relationships with a lot of good friends have suffered. And now i can barely pass my exams. Infact, i couldn’t graduate from the university cos of this. I had to quit after 5 years. Well, I decided to quit porn and started the Convenant eyes 10-day RecoverED challenge.

  57. I have been a porn and masturbation addict since 2007. Before then, i used to be an ‘A’ student. Since i got addicted to porn, my relationships with a lot of good friends have suffered. And now i can barely pass my exams. Infact, i couldn’t graduate from the university cos of this. I had to quit after 5 years. Well, I decided to quit porn and started the Convenant eyes 10-day RecoverED challenge. I was referred to this site and I must confess that the stories I’ve read have been nothing short of inspirational. I used to go through the cycle of stop-start, but now I’m motivated more than ever to see this through. May God help me.

  58. I have been a porn and masturbation addict since 2006. i have try many times to stop it but i always relapse. hope nofap will help do it now. this the first time i write in a forum i have always think i will be able to stop it by myself.

  59. I was forced into this due to my circumstances. I started watching porn since 2009. Now I am addicted to this. most of the Time I intended to quit it but I failed miserably. I’m back to square one.Till 2010 I was brilliant student, but today I even fail to stand in front of anybody. There is a feeling of guilt all the time. I realize my mistake but again same mistake happen. My thought process has been completely distorted. One day I strongly criticize the porn and the very next day I find myself indulged in the same habit again and again.

  60. Beathemeatking

    Wow just stimbled across this website and although it’s my very first day just going thorough other people’s comments has been really helpful. I’ve been struggling with masturbation since 2015. I masturbate every day, am tired of feeling guilty hopefully me joining this platform will really help me

  61. I’m so thankful for this place. I was on a dark path. I couldn’t see the light. Only darkness and lack of power to make things bright. I live in fear of the unknown because I simply didn’t understand how something could blind side me so hard! Being weak and not in control is no way to live. I’m glad I was lead here so that I can understand, the first step to healing. I have a long way to forgive myself for all the damage I caused myself and the ones close to me. I’m full of regret but I still choose to build. With everyday I choose to stay away from anything not inperson sexual I heal. If you let your autopilot run the show all the time you will regret it, head my warning and stay on top of your life. Thank you all for making this place a reality, it’s the help I needed.

  62. I fell back into the trap late last night. I think I’m addicted and have never actually admitted that before. I’m 40ish and I guess you’d say shy with women. It used to be so much easier to run home to my comfortable porn about 18-20 years ago and i was a late bloomer who eventually found his girl and married.

    I haven’t had to address this problem in probably 15 years and even back then I was never fully caught, just some bad googling left behind.

    Lately, I’ve been running back to my old fantasies. I have such mixed feelings of excitement, arousal and guilt all at the same time and I know it’s inherently wrong BUT I struggle with the fact that I go very long stretches (months and months) that sometimes involve actual, although I usually perform horribly, sex, between these failures. So since the time between is so long I almost convince myself I deserve it.

    I think I’ve almost got this conquered, but I’m so depressed in a successful, self imposed only… Stressful job.

    I have several culture changing inventions/ideas that fall flat always because of my social anxiety that I’m sure is related to this secret addiction.

    Since I’m going full confession, might as well mention the daily pot use, while maintaining what you would consider a very successful career, for the past 25 years.

    I know it’s all related, I’m very depressed, it at times leads to masturbation and pornography I don’t know how to tell a doctor or therapist and it gives me anxiety even thinking about it.

    I’m trapped at the moment and pray daily for help. Some days are better than others. I love my family dearly and want to be normal for them but I don’t know how yet.

  63. Ancientmariner

    Thank you for sharing I hope it helps you to know you’ve helped me to recognize and acknowledge my own failings and frustrations and to focus on the positive

  64. Dear Quitter. I am almost in the same situation. I am 42, and terrified with what I am doing,. I am also experience that same with the “in between” experience like a hole falling again and again in to the same trap. I also suffer a lot with depression because of this stuff, especially when I am alone! Loneliness is poison for me! I am happy that you seek help through prayer. I believe also that prayer helps but more it helps if both of us would pray for each other or even together… Yes, I made also the experience that when I was younger, I had a easier time, but now I am in the midst of a midlife-crisis… I am willing to be your AP if you want… Maybe we can share more together! Making us busy with good sharing and staying clean!

  65. Hi
    I like this story very much.today is my 35 day on NOFAP.I feel some thing new in my life like
    1. Clarity of mind
    2. Good stamina in sports
    3. Better looking skin
    4. Better erections
    etc
    what happen after 90 days or more.

  66. First day joined the group. I been doing this crime for nearly 8years. I called it a crime because it has destroy my life.goal.time…Ext.? I start my journey today 09/15/2018 @ 11:30pm
    I will share later about who I am in detail and what I been through & the benefits ?.

  67. Thanks alot for sharing with us how you feel now and then. I have been suffering with the addiction problem for a very long time(15 years). Many time i think about to leave but unable to do so. Hopefully i feel now is the time i should discourage myself from watching porn. It’s only four days that i haven’t watch any porn and excited to know how it feel when i have not watch porn for a month but i am afraid at the same time about the relapse. I have been trying to stop myself for years but i cant stop myself from watching porn more then a week. I am hopeful that this is the time i can do.

  68. Thanks for opening up and embracing the dark side, man.
    It is really hard to let go once it becomes a habit because it’s too easy. Often we only find ourselves doing the nasty business after its finished.
    I feel good for you and it gives me an incentive too. It’s been 2 days for me and I’m determined to extend this run.
    #NoFap

  69. I think that self esteem and fapping go hand and hand I almost killed myself a few times and alot of that was behind that was fantasies I decided to live out to please myself and my sexual desires I go to church alot now and pray alot for strength to stop but even so it’s a daily struggle I’m on my 3 day and I truly believe that fapping was destroying my life and relationship s with both men and women

  70. Your stories are really helping. I am over 60 and heve been doing PMO most of my life. I tryed to stop a gozillion ways. But right now I do feel different. I NEED TO QUIT AND I AM GOING TO. Porn is nasty and I got too good of a life to continue feeling the way I do.
    just sayin

  71. today, 16/01/2019, i want seriously quit with this shit.
    i’m married, i have a baby, i have a good job, but i live in the shadow.
    i feel like i’m always wearing a mask. Everybody think i’m fine, nice man, nice husband, nice dad….but i keep my secret since 15 years.
    i almost stop having sex with my wife because of this.
    i always find excuse for avoid contact with her…and sometime i don’t get erection.
    it’s time to stop.
    it’s time to stop waste my life with this shit.
    i can stay a full night watching porn untill i’m done, and then sore and sleepless live my life waiting for the next opportunity of masturbating with porn.
    i need your help. i’m scared about the consequences.
    what will happen if i quit doing this? how will i manage my impulse?
    and, otherside…what will happen if i will not quit?
    now is the time to.

  72. Good job. i’d been trying nofap for some time, but i have always relapsed. Now i have the confidence to do what i must do, because now a have a goal, one of improvement of one self.

  73. Hi,
    good luck with your reboot!
    I’m 35 years old, Italian guy. I’m starting today with the process of rebooting. I think I am going to struggle with this process since I started masturbation when I was 11 years old, with no internet at that time but television and VHS. I lost my virginity at 16 years old but I never ejaculated during the intercourse I always have to masturbate to come.
    I suffer from delayed ejaculation I can have sex for one hour for example without coming. When the girl is satisfied I started to masturbate but during the masturbation, I am thinking to porn scenes from porn actress so I have associated ejeculation to porn scene and from october 2018 I haven’t more orgasms so I can ejeculated without orgasms.
    These are the main problems I want to quit porn and enjoy more intercourse and I hope I can have again orgasms and ejeculate inside the vagina.
    Any suggestions?

  74. i am from china,now am 16years old.i dont want have a fuck life i must change.most of my friend them like this …… you know.but i cant like them,i must do some thing to help me,what’s more help my life.i think you like me.what are you waiting for?let’s move.fight the devil in you mind.

  75. I am 62days into the challenge. I have relapse 4times since I started 2times without porn and 2times with porn I am heart broken I don’t know what to do now.

  76. I start my 0 day right now pray for me that i can continue for 30 days i hope. Once i get to day30 i can go on…..

  77. Grateful for sharing your experience with us. I’m a beginner on this forum and I’m hoping this forum can instill in me, the redemption I’ve been hoping for a long time. I’m on day 2 into the challenge of 30 days. Hoping to keep this going.

  78. Hello guys, I’ve just started my challenge two days ago, exactly 24/3.

    I got the idea through one of my friends who told me about this community, you are really making difference and inspiring people all over the world.

    I decided to stop porn and masturbation for 3 months and let’s see how it will go.

    Thanks.

  79. Thanks for sharing.
    I’m 39 now, am in a relationship and for some time my partner accepted my behavior, all but sex was always good and I tried to fill my lack in the bed with other things. But now he no longer is fulfilled.
    I’m no PMO for the 6th day now. It is easier (for now) than I thought, trying to keep myself busy reading novels, and all the positive comments in here. The lack of libido is scaring, but the morning woods the last two mornings keep me positive (didn’t have one for months!). I hope that going back to have private intimacy with my partner will be possible, even though he doesn’t believe that much in it anymore. I already tried to abstain from pron some time ago for a week: the sex we had after those 7 days was amazing! And after that I just fell back into the old habit, thinking that I could stop whenever I wanted. But I couldn’t.
    Now it’s my time to heal. Wish me luck.

  80. Thanks man. You are a funny guy with great will power, you make my night so happy. Cause from this day I want experience better life withouth urge to masturbate. I will post my struggle in the progress in this forum continuesly

  81. I happy to say I’m 13 days clean today. I’m happier than ever, my skin is glowing, my self esteem is much higher. I don’t think plan to ever go back to masturbating, for about 10 years it has cost me a lot and I say NO MORE! I’m glad I took this step and I can wait for my first month, first six months, first year and many more years and d living healthy and positive

  82. I am so amazed by your Story! I wanted to try this now up until next week.

    I am suffering from porn addiction now, i mean i have a wife we both love each other, I love her so much but whenever i was alone and i am lonely i usually watch porn and end up masturbating, after this i feel so much disgust and shame for myself.

    I often feel depressed , pessimistic and unmotivated for my life. I just wanted to stop it now, i know i am better than this. I tried stopping it many times but still i am helpless.

    But now i just stumble with this site,and i learned so many things about sex, porn and addiction.

    I want to try it again, i want to be a better man for my self for my family and for my love one.

    Please pray for me.

  83. Thanks for this op,I’ve been addicted to porn and masturbation for like 6years now.and since then my longest streak before relapse is 3weeks.In the part of the world where I stay(Nigeria) topics like porn and masturbation and even sex before marriage are regarded as taboo,so even if you’re addicted to porn and masturbation(believed to be a demonic act) you will be subconsciously secretive about it.thanks to the Internet and thanks to no fap,I now feel very motivated to end this depressing loop of PMO.I have started my journey to nofap490 and today is day #1.wish me luck.

  84. Thanks man. I just turned 41 last month and through your language, I can really relate to you. Im looking forward to a turn of the tides and productivity and success on my future goals other than fatigue, and unmotivated hours lying in bed in the morning.

  85. Thank you for sharing.
    I am at 30 days right now too, but i am still struggling like crazy. In my life I have quit porn more times than I can remember, my best record has been 7 months. Life is never perfect, but for me porn is something I have constantly used as a crutch to avoid dealing with the emotions of lifes highs and lows. Using porn and not dealing with the underlining emotions is one of the factors that lead to my a divorce and struggles in my career.

    Even though I still struggle, admitting to a problem with porn and fighting it has helped me greatly in life. I can tell you I am happily married to a great woman who I can talk honestly about my problem. I have some how managed to have the career of my dreams.
    Anyway my point is fighting porn and dealing with problems head on in life make for a much better life. And if you screw up get up and try again.

  86. Hello brave people,
    I stumbled upon this site and must say I quite like the way it frames porn. Working as an addiction psychologist and seeing porn addicted clients often, I learned some new things about using porn in the context of addiction. In my line of work it is still often seen as a counterproductive coping style, but less as an addiction. I never agreed and now learn why. It is not only professionally, but also my own struggles with it that makes this site and your stories interesting. Keep up the hard work of abstinence, love to read your stories.

  87. I want to thank you guys. After first learning about NoFap on Lisa Ling’s CNN interview, I went to your website, listened to podcasts – both pro and con – and read posts from your members. It’s all be so helpful to me. I too have struggled with this for years but struggled alone; quitting for as much as a year but usually on and off again and feeling like crap about it. I’ve taken the challenge and this time I don’t feel alone. I know from experience how great it feels to be free of the routine. My wife notices things about me when I’m “off” and so do people at work. I Feel f’n great when “off” of PMO; verile, attractive, totally connected to my wife both in and out of the bedroom. The critics can say what the will. Like everything, there are those that take it to the extreme. All I can say to newbies is read carefully the part of the website which outlines what NoFap is ‘not’. That’s where you’ll get clarity on what you are doing on the website and how it can help you in your own unique way. Having posts from other guys is like having buddies to talk about something you’d never really dig into with a buddy. Thanks again to all of you.

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