@OceanBlack Dude, your attitude is awesome. You are relentless in your willingness to keep going. I'm on day two of my first legitimate attempt this year. We all want you to succeed, because we want to succeed.
@OceanBlack, you've got the strength to win the war against porn. Just don't quit the daily battle - new day, new struggling, new challenges and new victories. Keep pushing, mate!
Whats up yall Just joined and still getting set up but i wanted to jump right in. I first quit in June and started addiction and childhood trauma counseling. Huge struggle but I didnt relapse until last month. My counselor and wife agree that I dont have a circle and never made an attempt at one. I always blew it off as dumb and i didnt think running to my internet buddies whenever I have an "urge" or im skipping around my "yellow circle" would actually help, but I never tried. Now im here. Off top, my biggest weapon against this has been the accountability app (covenant eyes), which is monitored by my wife. I'll be real and admit I hate that shit, but it really keeps me from looking at anything inappropriate on my phone. So that covers most of the day, every day. Over my time in sobriety I've become desperate and motivated to find new means. I found an old phone that assisted with my relapse. Threw it away about 2 weeks ago. There's still other devices in the house I could get to (old laptops, tablets, etc) but it would take enough work/time to talk myself out of it before using them. Anyway im hoping just running this and talking about it will help keep me on track. My marriage is still very much intact and my goal is to free myself from unhealthy thinking and desires and make room for the type of love and leadership and protection that she deserves. Sometimes idk if thats real or if I can achieve that but im going to put everything I can into trying.
Hi there mate! Welcome aboard! Relapsing is quite normal when we're fighting any kind of addiction and porn isn't different. I know that very well. But you sound really motivated to quit the bad habit. You've got a helpful wife, which is great. Keep pushing! We're here and you can count on us, anytime. Wish you all the best!
Hello Friend, you will do it you have the warrior within we all have but what's important is to take decision towards the right. I am really happy that you have full support of your wife and she is actually trying to help you to get over this addiction. I believe with your willpower and her support you'll beat this addiction forever. You can do it friend, we are with you and we believe in you
Yo también voy a hacer lo mismo hermano, el pmo terminé por completo con mi vida pero sé que con la ayuda de Dios podemos salir de este maldito vicio. Te recomiendo que leas este libro amigo, él me ha ayudado, puedes usar el traductor si no lo entiendes ya que mi lengua materna no es el inglés.
Woke up and immediately started working, wanted to sleep late today, maybe because yesterday was tough. Thank you for the support guys, I feel like I'm surrounded by people who want good for me, In my real life it's actually quite opposite, Everyone wants to see me fail, My neighbors aren't happy that I bought a car(They don't have a parking space and Now that I bought a car they can't park in front of my gate because I built a parking space and I park my car In my house and they are pissed about it.), my family ain't happy that I got a job and started earning for myself (when I was free I used to do errands for my family members and they all used to treat me as a servent because I'm the smallest one here and now that I have a job They still want me to keep doing their chores for them and since I started saying No to people they all got pissed.) except for my Mom. Nobody smiles when they look at me everyone always wants something from me, and trust me guys I am all about sharing and celebrating life with the loved ones and to be honest don't really think about money that much, but when people start to use you and start loving your bank account more than you, that's when you should get Cautious. So when you guys Bombarded my inbox with your support, It felt really really really great.
Yes friend, the world is filled with lot of good and bad people, you'll definately meet those who really love you for what you are and not your money and it's absolutely correct to be cautious of the people who are using you. Our support will always be there for you. Just never give up, keep improving yourself and keep shining friend.
Just bought myself a subscription for bootcamp related to my career to improve my skillset, Planning to learn more about my career and Job. About yesterday, I was working normally and these two seniors got into an argument with some employee at the clients end, I am not even on the project and they dragged me as well into the race because I specialize into the department they both were arguing about, and I couldn't hold their back, Let's just say I didn't know something I should have Known, So I screwed up. After that I got all negative because I damaged my integrity over there, To be honest they should not have started an argument for something they knew nothing about, Even I didn't know it, and I specialize into this, I'm still in my learning phase. But that doesn't give me an excuse to screw up, I should have stopped them and tell them that the other person was right but since I was a rookie I just stood there with my face shut while those two got ripped apart and I got into the crossfire. couldn't work after that, got all sad and depressed and needy. Went downstairs after that, allowed myself to feel the pain, Had a smoke, Sat down for some time, got back up and tried to work again. told myself that that's how we learn. Not gonna let this type of shit happen again, Until now I was learning on my own without any guidance, but In order to fight people with 10 years more experience than me, I'm gonna need some help, So I purchased a membership on udemy.
You have done the right thing friend, you should do everything to improve your skillset i am glad that you are honing your skills. If you keep improving, the time will come when addiction like smoking, porn will no longer be in your life.
Well, came home from work early today, Worked till I couldn't focus anymore, Then I was like, Yeah, Lets go home. I had smoke craving early after reaching work, popped a nicotine gum in my mouth and started doing the chewing thing that they mentioned. Did you know, we don't use nicotine gum like any other gum, Instead there is a different direction to use it, It did its job, didn't have any smoke craving throughout the day after that, Good News I had a Glass of freshly squeezed Juice today, Bad News, I may have an issue with Nicotine Gums, I don't know if it is common or what but my throat is sore, Very Very Very Mild, Not causing any trouble whatsoever but I'm worried if it will worsen itself after continued use. Weather is out of control these days, Waking up early morning is a battle in itself, rest is unspeakable. Porn cravings are still there, Surprises me out of the blue every now and then. Ohh, the Girl I was talking about earlier, There's nothing there anymore, I don't know what happened but she isn't giving out those vibes anymore that I felt earlier, Maybe she didn't like my personality after hanging out with me, We Hung out like twice, everything was good, we laughed and talked. Suddenly she turned it off and she's so serious and pretentious these days. I'm gonna let it go and focus on myself now. Other than that, all is good, I'm liking my streak till now.
Hi mate! I tottally get you and we are all together into this! For me its my 22 day and I can't believe it!! If i can do this you can too!! Before this there was not one single one day that I haven't masturbated and ejaculated at least 1-2 per day (and when i say "at least" i really men it! There are some days you are totally into itand you can't get enough - we all know how it goes and how many times it can go) I am not an expert yet, but here is the only advice i can give you so far: We now have all this free time for the first time in our lives! That's why we usually masturbate when we are bored. This free time is actually a huge gift but we cant apreciate it yet because our mind is still on the old habbit (jerk off to porn any time we feel bored) To replace this habbit and make new pathways to your brain you should do this: Find what you really like to do when you are in a good mood. If you can't find what is this try to remember what you used to do as a kid (before you 've found out porn and masturbation) Anyway , any time you feel bored try to fit in a new activity to make new paths between boredom and porn. This could be anything. Working out, walking, swimming, playing an instrument, a walk in nature, spend time with your friends, taking care of yourself or your room... I dont know man. ANything makes you happy! It could be any of this but try to find what gives you a positive mood when you think about it. Write down all this stuff so you can remember what you really like! On the times you would be bored those things might seem not so interesting to you. But choose one of this and do it! Day by day it would be easier and you might like it more and more. At the end believe it or not you would be a better version of yourself without even trying. You ll get what I am talking about when you ll be there. Summary: Find positive activities you enjoy as a man (you have other interests beside your dick, believe me) We just forget about it when we only jerk off. When we feel bad we make things to feel even worst. When you ll start to feel good you want to do things that make you feel good. It's stragne but it works. All the best man and keep posting!
Okay, I think I felt the first good thing about my streak. I can feel my brain working smoothly, I understand things slightly better now, Response time of my brain has improved. There could be other reason behind this. But two days back, I had to think so much to understand something but today I was puzzled and I got out of it quicker than before.
Yup! It works like this! Brain fog starts to dissolve. There are some huge brain benefits that I also noticed through the first days as well. There are many ups and downs from day to day. I might feel very happy for some time and then some other days not so much. But even the days I don't feel that strong and confident I stil have the clarity to see it. That is big for me! One of the best things that is coming back is clarity mate. Through the first days it's difficult to notice because your mind still running on porn and your body craves for some touch. But if you keep it strong clarity gets better and better. I thought I was lazy and lost my creativtiy. I can guarantee that this is not the case!! I was just contantly on a porn bubble. My journey is still so fresh (23 days) but it's like I found my self again.
Loving these good news stories and great to read that people are changing for the better. I'm not a writer, so I enjoy reading about others experiences. Thank you and keep strong. As you say focus on yourself and the pieces will fall into place.
