I had some fantasies today, and I could feel the chemicals releasing in my head. Unpleasant, plus I felt weak and insecure in public later.
What’s been helping me when I get the urges is I visualize. I visualize my life with a girlfriend and doing things, and enjoying each other’s company, and I visualize having a career and everything on track.
Does your mood or even personality get better the longer you've been abstaining? Nofap does help me feel more focused and not so sensitive but I have it where even wet dreams change me and it confuses me. I'm getting that relapses really do change people, for better or worse. Also that the level of effect varies with different individuals.
I completely get it, cause it's the same for me, however if I don't fap for a while I tend to naturally shift to the more confident outgoing type. What about you?
The part where you feel worse then when you relapse is what I go through sometimes. My problem is that way I stay that way until the next relapse or wet dream. Its weird and bc of that I relapse/MO on purpose which sometimes makes me better. Almost like a gamble. I know this sounds ironic since this is NoFap's forum.
Well, I mean, masturbating by itself is a sort of stress reliever, and many used it (and P) as a coping mechanism which cause it to become an addiction.
If I don't fap basically I'll be left with the same personality until the next relapse. Consistenly though it does help me with focus which makes me procrastinate less. How much of a change do you feel when you relapse?
Well, I notice that my life goals suddenly change, along with my priorities, relationships, and how I view the world. Procrastination is killer for me when I relapse (Which won't be happening again btw).
My mood is all over the board while abstaining, but overall trends more positive. My personality is always what it is. Sometimes I show more of it. Other times it stays hidden.
You have the grit and determination to see this through. I at least want to know who I am without all the sexual baggage, and maybe it will be forever.
i have this too and i know what are you thinking but the real question is When i dissagree with my current personality there is the question should i relapse to change it to another personality or try living with this one. by the way im so dissapointed i had Perfect personality for me i was happy and funny and all that and the Flat line kick me and i couldn't sleep so i relapsed and day after i changed too much... no im not talking no energy headache and more im talking about whole me
I signed up just to say I’ve never related so much to this, I had relapsed and searched if what’s happening to me is only going on with me or with others, I’m glad to know I’m not alone.
So has anyone found a solution to this? Cuz i swear this problem is eating my alive. Its draining me of all my seed,my relationships,my happiness, my life……… Is it even real or just in our head? They say whatever you believe in is true. What if we are just believing in this and make it true. Ill be fapping 9-10 times a day just to get “the perfect personality” and i end up getting nothing but a tired personality since i have been doing it so much. No energy. Wake up the next day and its the same routine. I swear guys please i need help with this. Anybody i try to tell they tell me im crazy(can u even blame them for saying that). Its been like this for over a year now. And im just done guys. Its not healthy. I try to do nofap but as u all know with nofap comes relapses and one relapse might be okay to get back up from but how do i get back up when my mind keeps telling me to do more since j dont have the “perfect personality” yet……. If any one of you have dealt with this and living healthy now…. Please share with me your experience. I most certainly need it.