So I'm 19, in college studying Exercise Science right now. I've always been a fairly popular guy. I work out, and a lot of pretty ladies and I seem to click fast. However, I've had a masturbation problem since I was 12 and I didn't realize that it was killing my social life. I can't even really get up for the ladies, it's super embarrassing. Now that I know what needs to be done, I'm super excited to start this journey so that I can once again claim some real poon tang as my own and enjoy some real, emotional, passionate, ROCK HARD sex
Welcome! I hope you conquer the M problem, but at the same time, I also hope you learn what sex is all about -- not just the spoon-fed crap popular culture tells you what sex is.
Hi genningsma. Good luck with finding the and getting the balance right with the "real emotional, passionate ROCK HARD sex" You'll get a lot of very different perspectives on this forum, which is exactly how it should be, so there's something for everybody to draw from and contribute to whilst we slowly, gently adopt, adapt, and form your own. Just to help get you started can I just offer the following suggestions (and they are only suggestions)? Sorry if any of this is stating the obvious or repeating anything else etc, and I’m sorry if it’s a bit preachy but I'm REALLY fired up at the moment by the videos I've added to the bottom of this message!! 1. Head over to the forums and take your pick. Wade in and see what grabs your interest. Start a thread. Help others and be helped just by getting involved. Plus it’s the PERFECT antidote to fapping!! 2. Don't get into arguments (especially over the usual politics/religion stuff) We are all human here and we are in this together regardless of our chosen 'path' (even if you believe truth is a 'pathless' land!) Sharing is one thing- imposing is quite another. And besides, you really won't find a more caring, well intentioned bunch of folk anywhere! 3. Check out the website yourbrainonporn if you haven't already and make use of the brilliant resources there. 4. Consider doing a 90 day reboot and get yourself a tracker (see bottom of this post) Even if you intend to continue M&O you really do want to completely disassociate from porn altogether (for good!!) 5. Be open to new possibilities and perspectives. Take up something new and focus on that rather than focusing what you are 'losing' (Don't be a 'loser'!;-))? Is there something you always wanted to try but didn't have the time or energy? See this as a fresh start, an opportunity to become a whole new version of yourself? Also, bear in mind that humour really is the best medicine and can really help you see things from a new and and helpful perspective. (And you probably need that more than anything right now?) 6. Learn to love change. It’s the only thing we can rely on so why resist it? Movement is life. Resistance causes pain, and pain causes suffering so don't fight your cravings and withdrawal- they are your training ground! You are the captain of your own ship so when the sea gets a little rough (and it will on occasions) embrace it and sail with it in the full knowledge that the cravings will pass as they are merely your ‘addictive voice’ desperately urging you to ‘feed’ it. Be like the surfer who rides the waves rather than going under them and don’t be frightened of making mistakes as they are your guides! (and if you learn from them they are NOT mistakes, just necessary parts of the process). Likewise, your cravings are testing you and therefore you can choose to experience them as your greatest teachers so be open to what they have to teach you about yourself? About life? Be up for the challenge and remember- change is a process not an event so go easy(tiger!!) Consider the possibility that, ultimately, it’s your ongoing commitment to paying attention and your willingness to remain totally present, each and every step of your journey to freedom (and beyond!), that will be the deciding factor in determining long or short term ‘success’? You also might want to seriously consider reading the book 'Changing for Good' by James O Prochaska which is a particularly helpful tool for those who want to make positive and LASTING change in their life. Several of us here are finding it to be an indispensable tool. 7. Greet and encourage newbies ;-) I also strongly urge you to watch these short videos and ask yourself, "do I want to remain part of the (major!!) problem or become part of the solution?" The second one might be considered to contain 'triggers' but I make no apologies for saying that the very least we can do is view the 'reality' at least once and I'll tell you before I saw this videos I was determined never to use pornography again but after seeing them I KNOW I won't... “The lie tastes sweet at the beginning, but bitter at the end. The truth tastes bitter at the beginning, but sweet at the end." ~Buddha http://www.faithit.com/sex-trafficking-major-sporting-events-shocking/ http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=7df_1323733520 http://nefariousdocumentary.com/ http://www.indiegogo.com/ Wishing you all the love in the world and all the very best with your fresh start Fantastic new genuinely independent internet TV channel*http://www.thepeoplesvoice.tv/
