Hello my fapstronauts. I was reminiscing on my battle with porn addiction and all the problems I've had with it. We often suffer from embarrassment, anxiety, loneliness, self-esteem issues, Erectile dysfunction, etc. I want to ask my fellow fapers a question: What was the hardest thing you had to or still deal with as a porn addict? Personally erectile dysfunction was terrible. I missed out some really good oppurtunities to smash girls and they often left disappointed because of it. Out of everything I dealt with this had to take the cake as the hardest problem.
That's true BTW ^ But in all seriousness it's the constant being on guard against becoming aroused or fighting urges. Averting my eyes, changing the channel. Fighting the urge to fap when I'm bored. It feels like a constant fight
I can definitely relate to this. I've missed out on what I'm sure would have been some awesome one night stands due to a combination of anxiety/my brain being fucked from porn/probably drinking too much. Most of them I managed to pull through in the end, but it shouldn't be that hard to get it up for a smokin' hot stranger who wants to bang you. The shame of being out in public after an intense binging session the night before was also tough. I could feel everyone's eyes on me, like they knew... I also looked terrible the morning after. Pale, bloodshot eyes, just generally looking tired, and I swear I looked physically thinner, like I'd literally been drained. I get triggered by women in public, especially as the weather gets warmer, and the clothes come off... I'm a sucker for a big ass in tight jeans, but now I just try and enjoy the arousal and feeling of natural horniness without wanting to run home and jerk off to porn. It's a lot of fun staying in that state; you can channel your sexual energy into charisma. I didn't believe it at first, but after I'd abstained for nearly two weeks, I was away at a convention, and women were looking me dead in the eye, touching me, flirting, and getting overly close to me. Must be a pheromone thing... People always focus on the negative sides of no PMO. "Oh it's so hard" "I've got so many urges" "I've got blue balls". Instead of focusing on the negatives, enjoy all the positive aspects that come with it! E.g. more energy, increased confidence, harder erections, and just generally feeling more manly. My two cents anyway!
Yep. Same here. My eyes would have dark circles under them and I looked positively vampiric. Yes, the paranoia of thinking everyone knew I had done it was just terrible. I would be stumbling over words and I had lost my edge socially. I felt like a kid in a man's body, so passive and like I was a pretender in the game of life. A fraud, a charlatan and like I was going to be found out at any moment. Horrible.
I felt just the same. The pale face of Nosferatu with dark circles under the eyes. I was sometimes even turning red once talking to women or strangers. It shouldn't happen when you're 30+... Anyway, here you have distributed the approach, which I think, we shall all take: It is exactly the way I want to make myself free. Just forget about P. I do not want to concentrate on what is difficult. Changing life has to be difficult. It is life after all. Good luck all of us.
My worst thing really would be the lack of energy/will to live. After i relapse i can feel myself sinking back into my mind where i will stay until i build the sexual tension again. It really sucks throwing away my will to live, I often wonder what waits 'out there' ready for me to just lunge at it and have the chance to really do something awesome.
The trick is to not let go of the sexual tension, unless you feel it is absolutely, positively necessary. Try and channel that tension into positive energy. Have you ever done a workout whilst being horny as hell? You feel like Superman! Also, if you work hard enough, your arms will be too tired to fap, so it's a win win Relapsing and making the same mistakes over and over again is the single most frustrating thing about NoFap. However, I think it's necessary to relapse a number of whilst in the NoFap mindset, in order to realise how stupid it is to throw away the work you've put in just because you put yourself in a situation that caused you to relapse. Once you get to the point where you fee a whole body high because you've conserved that much energy from not jerking off every day, your body will start to crave that rather than the dopamine hit you get from porn. I only discovered this high recently, and it's been an invaluable tool in fighting my cravings. Willpower alone isn't enough, you need to replace the high you get from porn with a natural high that matches it. (A healthy one of course). The fact that we're on this forum shows that we've addressed the problem and have a desire to stop. There are still millions of men out there unaware of this movement and its benefits. You've come this far, now take it to the next level!
I don't have as much trouble dealing with urges and arousal as you guys. It was stressful the first couple days but I got over it pretty quick. I've dealt with some ED in the past and for me it was very embarrassing. By far, the hardest thing I have to overcome is the way I habitually demean women. I mean, it's okay to see them as people with human appetites because they are but it's a problem when one sees them for that only. Learning to get to know them as individuals has been a challenge.
I can't concentrate on anything I can't take anything seriously. Can you believe I left my study opportunities because of just pmo things and I can't have any connection with girls till age 20. I am continuously fighting and hope one day I get rid of this trap
20 is still young man! It's just drilled into people that as soon as you reach the age of consent you HAVE to be having sex or you're a loser. I know guys well into their 20's who are still virgins, and they don't give a shit, because it's not really important in the grand scheme of things. You're also on 37 days. That's a number that many guys on here are still dreaming of! You're obviously fighting this and winning, so carry on fighting. You're doing great
Thanks for motivation and support And yes there is much more things to explore in this vast world. Thanks again!!
Not being able to face reality as it is. That's the worst thing I was facing and still face sometimes.
1. The triggers....it all starts with a sex scene on tv and ends up with PMO. 2. Anxiety, anxiety, anxiety....perfomance anxiety specifically. I still havent popped the cherry , so Im afraid that when it happens..it wount be as electrifying as the dude in tht porn flick acts it out. 3. Trying to hide my porn addiction from my family and friends...most of them think that im this Padre like guy who is keepin it together until marriage. 4. The porn cravings I get...dopamine too much I think.
