Hello guys Does wet dream result in a relapse if you are doing no PMO and semen retention? Secondly, does using Tinder count as a relapse? Thanks
A wet dream is natural and normal, it happens to most who are abstaining from pornography, so don't worry about that one. In terms of tinder, well that's upto you ultimately. If you think you are using it in a way to get sexually aroused, or as some form of "acting out" behaviour, then yes, but it's for you to decide what and what isn't over the line. I recommend using the trhee circles from Sex Addicts Anonymous, https://saa-recovery.org/literature/three-circles-defining-sexual-sobriety-in-saa/ this link has a leaflet about it, and it can help you to better understand your idea of slipping. In SAA we call it inner circle behaviours or acting out behaviours, but this is a good way to really understand what you find as a lapse (relapse means absolutely slipping back to your old ways of viewing over a certain amount of time). Outer cirle is behaviour that's good for you, Middle circle is behaviours you want to stay away from as they will lead you towards what are your Inner circle behaviours which constitute a lapse/slip. I hope this helps and good luck.