Some of us need more than will power and discipline to succeed on Nofap

I can't believe I'm on day 94 of nofap. I was the biggest loser, masturbater for 20 years. I failed at quitting for the past 7 years. I can't believe it's gone.

The only reason I'm writing this is because I've read many posts now and I know many of you are struggling. I just want to share what finally helped me get to day 94 after so many years of failing repeatedly at Nofap.

I've never been into religion. I find it cringe. I don't like Christian music, my family are not Christian, we never went to Church. I HAVE NEVER BEEN RELIGIOUS.

I have lived a sad life and everyday is the same and unchanging. I used tremendous amounts of willpower to get in shape, study hard, earn money, invest. But there are some things that willpower (for some people) is never going to be strong enough to achieve.

Some of you will be able to use willpower alone and reach 90 days and never watch porn again. Many of you will keep failing after a few week long streak. I have a lot of willpower, but for nofap, it was never enough.

I gave up 3 months ago. I accepted that using willpower and discipline to change my life wasn't working and if there is a higher power, I need help. I just decided to open a Bible and started reading the gospels (Matthew, Mark, John and Luke) and some of the words gave me real peace and comfort.

Again, I am not some crazy religious fanatic at all. Not raised Christian. I don't know what possessed me to start reading. But when I did, the urges left me and I can honestly say the past 90 days WERE NOT DIFFICULT for me at all.

I have been addicted to porn for 20 years and tried quitting for the past 7 years. Willpower and discipline got me far in life, but for masturbating, it couldn't help me.

Guys, if you've been struggling for years, perhaps try asking a higher power for help. Ask sincerely. I gave up control and realised that after failing for years, I'm just going to keep failing and I need help from an external force.

I know this message is not for everyone but if it helps even one person get over this horrible addiction - as it did for me - then it'll be worth it.

If a weird guy like me can quit PMO, then anyone can.

 

Thanks for your message! I haven't even converted to Christianity or anything yet. I literally was randomly drawn to read the Gospels as a non- Christian. Maybe at some point I will fully convert.