For the past two days or so I have been starting to slip back into my habit of fantasizing. Yesterday morning when I woke I started to go through porn scenes in my mind, then throughout the day I was forcing myself to not fantasize, but on waking again I started to fantasize and almost edged. I start off by re living a romantic memory like when I held a girl's hand and kissed her, which in turn escelates into imagining what it would have been like to have sex with her, which then starts the cycle of sexual scenes playing in my mind. I go to bed at night thinking "tomorrow morning I will not indulge in my habit" but each morning the cycle starts. I'm so tired of this shit.
I know this sounds mad, but I found that turning off the rule helped, i.e. I had a 'no fantasizing' rule, but when I dropped the rule, I found that fantasies stopped crowding in. It was almost as if the part of myself which was frustrated by the rule was fighting the better part of me, but without the rule I'm free to make more moment-by-moment choices, rather than having a policeman in my head trying to control my thoughts. But if you do want techniques for curbing these fantasies there are some good ones from @daemonswithin, e.g. his thread Overcoming Sexual Fantasy.
It depends on your personal goals, to me fantasies along with masturbation are acceptable and an alternative to my previous porn usage. It takes much more effort and therefore is nowhere near the same level of use that porn got. However if you want to cut it out completely then you need to have something to take your mind off it. I read a lot and always have a book on the go by my bed, if this is where you find that these fantasies arise when your in bed this is one option you could consider.
Thankyou very much for the advice, I'm finding myself fighting to not Thankyou for the advice. I'm finding myself using every ounce of will power i can muster but eventually i am so exhausted i give up and succumb to fantasizing. I have tried going to bed only when i am exhausted so i fall straight to sleep and getting up early, but my mind just finds any part of the day to bring up the urgeto fantasize.
Thankyou for the reply. It's not an option for me as fantasizing is my problem, i stopped looking at porn over ten years ago but i recall scenes and replay them. I do read a lot but often even while reading i have porn images shooting through my mind.
It happens to the best of us. I was fighting fantasies this morning too. Like people have said a million times, just get up and do something, think about your day, etc. And I noticed that the quicker I cut the fantasies out of my mind, the slower they are to pop back up.
You say this happens in the morning while you lie in bed? Same thing happens to me almost every time I sleep in. Thing is that is a rarity now. I usually get up at 7 on the dot. Unless I'm overlooking something, getting the 8 hours sleep and waking up the minute your alarm/body clock wakes you up should see a marked improvement here.