Hello everyone - I am grateful to be welcomed into a community committed to sexual sovereignty such as this! I started using porn at age 13 and stopped when I was 34/35 after many years of battling with this addiction. My main motivation which finally helped me quit was my desire to fully see a woman in intimacy as a human being, fully present, rather than an object with a porn overlay on top of her. For me, that was the most tragic thing ever - to be disconnected from the flesh and blood human right in front of me, disconnected from the authentic intimacy my heart needs like a vital nutrient (but sought in all the wrong places), because of the porn programming in my psyche. I am at a place now where porn impulses have zero power over me. I am, however, at a growth edge of cultivating healthy self-love-making practices that don't involve imagination, fantasy, or imagery of any kind, but rather present-time, sensation-based connection with my body, heart, and sex as a spiritual/physical path for healing and deepening intimacy with myself, nature, and by extension, my loving partner. My intention for being here is to hear how others navigate their sexual needs through self-pleasure without engaging in the porn/objectification/fantasy programming and to share where I am as I keep learning. Cheers everyone!
I have learned from my own experience that M robs you of the true beauty of sex. With M, O becomes commonplace and you start to need O just to feel normal. I overcame P back in 2009, and have been trying to overcome MO since then. What I’ve discovered is that I have been obsessed with sex most of my life. Accepting this about myself has helped me realize that sex isn’t as important as I think it is. And this has been the catalyst to helping me overcome MO. I’m on day 80 of no MO and my life has been better because of it. I’m no longer a slave to self love. I “love” my wife and no one else (including myself).
