Open discussion and question for the women, cold approach

I honestly doubt women will be able to give you a truthful, objective, answer. Sex and romantic desire is instinctual in a lot of ways, like a mixture of animalistic desire but also wrapped in a divine, romantic, spiritual wrapping paper

I don’t think women on here or anywhere will be able to conceptualize what they really desire deep down

 

Like they will say they want certain traits in a man so they look like a lady and their family won’t disown them, but it seems women have to constantly lie in order to not anger their social support system - family and friends - people they can turn to in case of danger

which is why being rich is beneficial to dating … if you are rich, the girl can leave her social support system and just be with the rich man… because even if her friends and family hate her for it… she is still safe because she has a large supply of cash from her new man to keep her secure

But if you aren’t rich… then you will need the girls friends and family to approve of you as well… so in a way, it doesn’t matter if you are rich or famous or not… but if your not rich, then you will need her social support system to like you as well, since you can’t provide 100% entirely for her every need

I’d say dating is more like a war almost… a war … you against society … because society will always want you to not have the girl or to settle for a girl you don’t really like

 

I’m way older than you guys. But I know my daughters and what they do and do not like. None of us like strange men coming up to us. None of us cares what you look like( Ted Bundy was attractive) it makes us uncomfortable because we don’t know you. My daughters have only dated men that were in their social circle. From school, work, church etc.

 

I believe so, yes

 

Omg, get off social media. Nothing is real on there, how do you not understand that?? You know some comments are bots right?

 

And I think he’s disgusting so….

 

Someone mentioned it above, and I have to agree: women don't generally like being cold approached by men in general. In fact, most people don't like being solicited period.

For example, imagine how annoying it when Jehovah's Witnesses come knowcking on one's door, trying to convert them to their strand of Christianity. Meanwhile, door-to-door salesmen are annoying, because - like the Jehovah's Witnesses, they are offering/selling a product that you don't want and didn't ask for. However, if you see an advertisement for something you do want, then you'll be much more receptive when you come across it. In fact, you'll be actively searching for it.

Although I'm not a woman, I wasted 17 years of my life approaching women (warmly and coldly), hoping that something would blossom from it. Suffice to say, it was all for nothing, and I was rejected every time.

You seem to be asking this question over and over on this forum, but the answer will always be the same: it's best to let attracted women approach you, or find some way to get your attention. There's no point in wasting your time randomly walking up to strangers; a practice that is generally seen as socially unacceptable in most developed countries. In fact, where I live, some malls have banned guys who cold approach, because the women themselves complained (clearly, those men were ugly).

If you're asking these questions because you want to meet women, then I understand your frustration. In western culture, men are constantly told that every venue people are most likely to visit is inappropriate for meeting women. Some malls, workplaces and schools ban it altogether, and it's pretty obvious why in most cases: women don't want to be approached by men they aren't attracted to. If every guy on earth was a so-called chad, these laws wouldn't really exist in the first place.

If you have to do so much cold approaching, and you're still single, that means you're unattractive. I realized that five years ago, and I deeply regret not learning it sooner. At least I learned to not waste my own time, subjecting myself to a scenario that always left me miserable, depressed and self-hating in the end.

 

May I ask how long you've been doing this? I mean, it sounds like you've been doing this for a long time, and yet here you are. Sorry friend, but I don't think this plan of yours is working. You should consider that when women are polite and friendly, that isn't always a sign of interest.

As for the obese woman: Assuming she was genuinely attracted to you, maybe that's a sign of the quality of woman you're able to attract. That's not an insult (heck, I attract no one at all), but maybe you should try again with that girl, if she's the only person approaching you. Did you ever see her again?