Men, How Do You Deal With Unwanted Attention From Women?

Tell them you would like to be their friend, but you are not interested in anything beyond a friendship. It's easy, honest, and a nice way of telling them how you feel.

 

Tell them you would love to be “pen pals” with them and hope they get the hint.

 

Just run away in the opposite direction when someone is coming too close. Of course this doesn't work when you have to work with that someone. Then I think you could buy a ring, so it seems that you're married. Or say that you have strange fetishes and pray the god she doesn't have those. Lastly, you can forget her name, that usually does the trick.

Funny thing is, I've done all of those suggestions, except getting the ring. It is incredibly hard to get away from women and men as well when they try to have sex with you.

 

Never had that problem.

I can tell you, creating a paper trail is premature and literally running away is immature.

If they are direct, you can directly tell them “no, but thank you. I appreciate your interest but…”
And then tell the truth. “I’m not in a good place in my life to pursue that kind of relationship,” or “but ur ugly tho.” With more tact, obviously. I’m telling you, I’ve never had this problem.

For me, I am told girls/women have displayed interest in me, but I have always been so blissfully unaware and kept them in the friend zone until they gave up. You could do that as well.

 

What a humblebrag. Most men do not have this problem.

 

Most men are not trying to change their habits. Most men download tinder and expect results. I did, and it doesn't work. And yes, male can receive unwanted attention as well, and sometimes just saying sorry not today doesn't work.

 

actually i can easily relate to this "problem".
in my life experience, more often than not, we like those who do not like us and we dont like those who like us (especially women).
i had a date with a girl few years ago, she was nice, amazing person, very smart and funny..
but sexually she didnt interest me..
we tried to be just friends, and yes, it led few times to bed, but still, it felt weird, i understood that i didnt want her as sexual partner, as a friend hell yes! as a partner in bed... well... no.
we had to stop all communications.

i still dont believe in friendship between man and woman, especially if one of them want in bed the other one.

 

Take the compliment. Be flattered. Move on.

 

B

Wow, would be my dream, u are a hunk propably, I am average joe so dont get much attention from females, well simple thing is, dont talk so much,be silent, after giving a minute or two attention to her, say I am sorry I got some work to do, I need to do something. After a few polite silent treatment she will understand and leave u alone, believe it is ok, u got to realize,woman get more attention from men, even the average women, they will easily find some other man, if u are not interested in them.

 

Some advice, dont have sex if u dont want to wife her, no one will get hurt then.

 

In my workplace I have strange experience. While on PMO i am acting nervous, shy and weird with women; especially the beautiful one. They avoid me.
When i am on a longer streak > 10 days, i became some selfconfident. I don't react anymore weird near the women.
But suddenly I've got women attraction by women i don't want the attention. They start to flirt and me and giving me sign to come closer to them. Im afraid that i am hurting them emotionally.
I wish at workplace i could socialize with all women like normal human beeing without women attention.

 

@depeche69 I think i know why is that..
women probably "feel" something about you or with you (or any man for that matter).
when you are on PMO, you need higher and higher dosage of "sensation" from female counterparts..
you are always looking for "sexiness" in them.. your eyes are always looking at them and inspecting them for sex..
they feel it..
when you are not on PMO, you are calm like a python snake and they dont feel threatened by your weird behavior, comments, etc..
thats why they want to be in your company..

 

I usually dial down my 'vibe' a bit. Less jokes, less masculine energy, less questions directed her way.

I think it's a bit of a dance, finding the line between fun chats that pass the time and seeking more when it's not there.

If it's too blunt or too often, I would probably start mentioning "my girlfriend this" "my girlfriend that" (whether girlfriend exists or not). That usually puts the brakes on extra energy going both ways.

 

Ok Chad.

 

The bigger problem is you thinking of yourself as a jerk for rejecting advances.

Getting unwanted attention? Who fucking cares.
Did she grab your dick when you walked by her? No, I didn't think so.
She looks at you like she wants to fuck you? Cool. Don't you have a job to do? Thought so.

Give a specific advance and you'll get a specific way of dealing with it. These vague contexts are just obsessing about nothing-burgers.

 

This is fucking crazy advice. There is nothing wrong with having non-marital sexual relationships. There are challenges. Be an adult about them.