Hello everyone, my ex girlfriend broke up with me about 14 months back. 1 month later my brother died in a terrible accident. For some reason nofap was not difficult because I felt like I had to prove 2 people I changed. Almost 15 months later I yesterday kissed a girl twice while being on nofap. We started talking and were vibing. Because I am used to the presence of my ex gf and my brother I feel very lonely lately. I feel like when I meet a girl she is the one who will fullfill my life. I worked on myself these past 14 months, so I do work out, eat clean, get money and work on my social skills. But for some reason I still feel lonely and these things don’t give me fullfillment like my friends told me it would give me. So whenever I meet a girl like the girl I kissed with, I get to attached. I literally can’t sleep if she doesn’t response in the evening. All my friends tell me to not focus on girls right now because I am to emotional/impulsive. But I do have a lot of friends but still feel lonely and whenever I am dating a girl I don’t feel lonely. But that means that when I am feeling lonely, I wanna talk/see the girl I am dating. I already feel energy shifting between us. She notices im getting more attached. Does anyone have any tips to fix this? I am seriously lost fr fr
I hope you find your healing. I agree, let God into your pain and loneliness. Also it is only just over a year ago since you lost your brother, that is a big deal in your life and do get help to process that if you haven't already and need to. If you have always been like this I would consider looking in SLAA, it is a 12 step addiction recovery group for this kind of stuff.
Instead of being so attached to one woman, could you see multiple women until one becomes the exclusive one? When I was single I had a lot of women friends as friends with benefits. It was not as fulfilling as having a single serious girlfriend, but their friendship and intimacy kept me from being lonely.
What does your average day look like? Maybe you have a boring life? Like mine? Let's make tiktok together bro!!