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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by HawkInMe, Jan 12, 2024.

  1. Sorry to hear that, bro :(

    We all make mistakes and the only thing we can do is to learn from them, even though sometimes a time machine would have come in handy. Like the one from Back to the Future, both time machine and a nice car, but unfortunately it's not possible (yet).

    Yeah, a relationship without intimacy wouldn't be a true relationship? It's one of the things that makes people feel connected and brings people closer to each other, maybe? I dunno, but I suppose soo. So I understand why you only focusing on PM.

    Sorry that your partner has some problems mentally right now and that your intimacy isn't what it could have been, but I remember that you once said that "sex isn't the most important thing for you" or am I wrong? So maybe you don't struggle as much from this like others would have? Hopefully your partner will recover from her mental issues asap and that your intimacy with each other becomes better.

    Maybe it's harder to avoid relapsing when you live together with a partner? I mean as a couple it's common that you give hugs and kisses to each other and those things are also very common in sexual activities and maybe they might trigger your brain even more to masturbate. When your partner gives you a kiss for example, maybe your brain will send out a urge signal because it thinks kiss = sex. Don't take this the wrong way that being single would be an easier way to get rid of a PMO addiction, this is only a speculation.
     
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  2. HawkInMe

    HawkInMe Fapstronaut

    I love that you said yet! I would love to one day see time travel become real but who knows if that is ever possible.

    Yeah, in my relationship, sex isn't important. I love and adore my partner and I always will! Just for them being themselves! I love her and just as she said she will be there for me through this, I'm there for her through her things too.

    When it comes to kissing and hugging and whatnot, there are some times where I might get a boner but it has never lead me to go masturbate luckily. I'm only getting excited at the thought of her and I when that happens. If she declines my advances, that's the end of it. I usually don't get any urges during or after for a short while.
     
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  3. Haha, yeah! If time traveling would have become possible one day, I don't think I would live long enough to experience it. It's also important to remember that changing the past could bring consequences in the future, so I think living in the present is the way to go, even though it would have been cool!

    You really have the heart in the right place, brother! A relationship shouldn't only be about "sex", it should be way more than that. Enjoy each others company, share some similar interests, be supportive, be respectful and be faithful to each other.

    It's actually something positive that you are able to get a "boner" during hugs and kisses from your partner, because that's a sign that you are sexually attracted to your her even though you are suffering from a deep porn and masturbation addiction. If you wouldn't been able to get a boner during moments like that it would have been unfortunate, since your addiction brain wouldn't been able to get horny enough during regular sexual activities and instead it would've want the more hardcore porngraphic stuff.
     
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  4. Whitedragon03

    Whitedragon03 New Fapstronaut

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    nice bro keep it up yo will be a man soon enough, btw how much is your day counter?
     
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  5. HawkInMe

    HawkInMe Fapstronaut

    Sorry for not responding for a while! Been super busy with my move and with work. My move to my new house went really well! Took about 8-9 hours in total and now my partner and I have been pretty busy unpacking. It's unfortunate to say that I haven't really been making much of an effort to resist PMO because I lost the motive to but my partner sat me down last night and talked some sense into me and so I'm going again and not giving up!

    Another person also reached out to me and so we are now in communication with each other as accountability partners. I think it'll be really good to have someone like that for me to be able to go and talk to when things get tough.

    When it comes to time travel, I personally wouldn't actually want to travel to the past to change anything. I would actually want to travel into the future, like a time that I'll be gone from this world just to see what it'll be like. I'd want to see what my children's children would be like as adults. I think that would be cool.

    My partner was actually questioning whether or not she might be asexual but we don't think so as she enjoys sex, it's just extremely hard for her to become aroused. With that said though, after we got settled into our new place, we actually have started to become more physical with each other! And last night we actually did do things with each other that we haven't done in quite a while and we both loved it! We feel closer than ever with each other
     
  6. HawkInMe

    HawkInMe Fapstronaut

    Hi! I'm going to try again! I want to go for a month and lasted 16 or 17 days before my first relapse. I have to reset my counter as I kinda slacked for a while but after my partner and I talked, I'm back and committed!
     

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