Hi new guy here: Basically I'm a porn addict who can't even survive even without a day of PMO, but managed to get to a week without and fell instantly back today. The first four days went well, the extra time without masturbating did open up time for more things, like working out longer and studying, but eventually at day 5, I started looking at the same stuff that would've used to get me off, but without touching myself. So I just stared at the stuff, getting hard, then left and tried to do something to get the thought off my mind. Day 6, I looked at it even more, it was harder this time. Day 7, I, in my infinite wisdom looked at it before sleeping so my sleep schedule got f*cked up. Today at day 8, before working out, sadly I relapsed. I want to get this degeneracy off mind because I'm feeling loss of control of myself whenever I get off, and even desensitized, so I end up looking at this that disgust me, but still feel sadly good. What can I do to not feel the need to look at the stuff that gets me off ?
Cuando el uso del NoPor es tan frecuente como en tu caso, le estás diciendo a tu cerebro que necesitas mirar eso para poder sobrevivir. Es como el alimento, tu cerebro sabe que lo necesitas así que te lo pide. En este caso debes luchar lo más que puedas por no ir a ver lo que tanto anhelas. Debes luchar contra los malos recuerdos tratando de hacer otras cosas para distraerte porque todo comienza por ahí. Cuando vayas a dormir no tengas el teléfono cerca. Puede ser muy difícil y doloroso al principio pero es la única solución. Espero y te vaya bien!
Cuando el uso del NoPor es tan frecuente como en tu caso, le estás diciendo a tu cerebro que necesitas mirar eso para poder sobrevivir. Es como el alimento, tu cerebro sabe que lo necesitas así que te lo pide. En este caso debes luchar lo más que puedas por no ir a ver lo que tanto anhelas. Debes luchar contra los malos recuerdos tratando de hacer otras cosas para distraerte porque todo comienza por ahí. Cuando vayas a dormir no tengas el teléfono cerca. Puede ser muy difícil y doloroso al principio pero es la única solución. Espero y te vaya bien!
Oh man, that question is hard to answer for it's different for everyone. What have you tried so far that didn't work? Try something else. You learned now that you can't afford to have "just one peek". For then the process in your brain begins what one can call "the dopamine drip". Once it begins, it almost always leads back to the pornhabit.
Unfortunately success is not a straight line, but many ups and downs along the way. As someone who has relapsed too many times to count, I can tell you not to be too hard on yourself. I used to have all the negative talk to myself after a relapse saying things like "I'm such a loser" or "I stink at life" or any other negative thing you can think of. It was not until I flipped my perspective 180 degrees that I started to have some success. I'm still not perfect but I am a lot better then I was a few years ago. First I try not to relapse. If i find myself sitting down and going to watch porn, I try to distract myself, preferably something without screens. I might go out for a 5-10 minute walk. I might clean my house. I might do a 5 minute workout with jumping jacks or running in place or crunches. When I do relapse I try to learn from it. The biggest thing is what was the reason I watched porn today? Was it boredom? Was it a stress relief? Then I come up with a plan so that I can deal with whatever the trigger was better the next time.
