When I was younger, I wanted to see a prostitute and would look up ads for them. I would imagine having sex with the ones that looked hot, and even called one of them (it went to voicemail). I was a Christian at the time, and 1 Corinthians 6:15-16 would terrify me, so I didn't go through with it. I'm no longer a Christian and I no longer believe in that scripture, but I still won't see a one. I know I won't feel happy after seeing her, no matter how hot she is. I want to have sex with someone who I have a connection and a common desire with, not someone who's just doing it for money. At the end of the day, it's your life and you will live with the consequences of doing this if you choose to do (whatever they may be). It might be good to listen to Rachel Moran and maybe read her book. She's a former prostitute and listening to her might give some insights.
By the time, I am writing this, If you have already done it, then no use feeling guilty. Please don't read further to feel even more guilty. But if there is still hope... Man please reconsider! Are you sure this is not the beginning of a new addiction like PMO. Atleast PMO was only wasting your time and energy, but this habit will also ruin your economic condition. If you are not able to stop yourself, sooner or later you risk getting caught, when that happens, how are you gonna face your family. For most people in this forum, getting real relationship is a big factor why they want to stop PMO, if you give yourself a real woman in form of prostitute, you are basically killing your motivation for improvement. Even if you marry someone in future, will you be able to look into your wife's eyes, won't you be burdened by guilt. And also what's the use of sex without love, you don't feel like dieing for her, not she loves you, she is behind your money, you won't feel satisfied or happy instead you will be filled with regret, fear and guilt. On the other hand, this same act with your wife will strengthen your connection, bring you closer, make you a responsible man. The base of this relation is that you love her not her body, are you sure that you want to miss all this for just few minutes of short pleasure and lifelong guilt. You got into PMO, it was not your fault, maybe you didn't knew that it will take you to this place, but with experience of PMO if you still make a bigger mistake, it will be your fault. If you want sex, try dating or some other way, I know it's difficult but the usually the difficult path is right path, earlier we took easy path through PMO and now we are here, you are doing the same mistake again. Either abstain completely or do it properly after marriage, don't try to take a shortcut. Also, it's completely possible for humans to stay without sex, that's what separates us from animals, we can control our basic instincts. Yeah! We all evolved from animals but once you become human, your evolution direction is decided by you. Either you can allow your animal side to take over or grow yourself in a new direction. For animals reproduction is a natural process, but for humans it's a choice, use that choice.
Sex is not a big deal you will find that out once you are with a woman long term, the real big deal is loving someone and spending time with them doing nice things.
I found her book to be very well-written. It's much appreciated that she took the time and effort to share her honest experience.
Guilt is very functional. It will bring us to the change we need. And it helps to adjust our moral compass.
I haven't read it, but one thing that stands out from her interviews is when she talks about the kind of men who see prostitutes. These kinds of men seem to be deeply misogynistic or incredible naive - I don't want to be either. He doesn't have to wait until marriage... Having said that, Itsuki described himself as a traditional Catholic so maybe he should. Still I would say it's better to have premarital sex with a woman you love than see a prostitute.
