I decided to make this post because I realize that No MO is also important for me. I had two long streaks this far with Retention. First was 2 months, the second 6 months. I haven't made it back to those days, because I was rationalizing too much about MO. Also P. So I realized the last two days, that I'm already feeling better without Masturbation. I don't miss Masturbation at the moment. It only really gets difficult when I get horny, then I give up and tell myself: "I can't do it. I can't resist" I remember during my last streaks that I would push trough and distract myself to let the urge go away. In my last session I didn't do that. I just let it happen and gave up within seconds. So I need to fight against it and do what I did before. I feel empty and depressed after I PMO, so why would I continue? Because it's an addiction. I'm currently in a Drug Rehab and here I want to incorporate a Hardmode Reboot. I feel like this is the optimal place for this. So I'm not going to waste it. I'm tired of feeling alienated and being depressed, anxious and a little paranoid. I remember this all went away when I didn't whack it.
Friend, you're here and you're doing the right thing. Take advantage of your time in rehab and do what must be done. You will suffer and you will rise after that. You're not alone. Things will get better. About the urges,I don't think that mere distractions will be enough to fight it. Distracting yourself on purpose sounds like an avoidance, like handing your control temporarily to something else. But distractions as a part of a bigger strategy and mainly mindset sounds more like it. PMO is as addictive as heroine. To simply go for a walk when urges come, will not be enough. At the end of the day, it's always about what I want more now, right now. Is it PMO or is it becoming the better version of myself.
I'm not sure if Porn is as addictive as Heroin. As I have done Heroin before, I can assure you that it's not even close. PMO is more like caffeine. It's difficult to quit yes. Addictive as Heroin? Nah bro.
O.K., I hear and respect your firsthand experience with heroin when you say that it's not even close when compared with pmo. We'll see whether you stand by it when you continue on this path. Because I truly had no idea that I'm a PMO addict not so long time ago. But I definitely can't agree with you saying that PMO is something like quitting caffeine. I was drinking coffee three times a day for 20 years and I couldn't imagine my day without it. And yet I successfully gave it up about two years ago on the first try. And yeah, first three weeks sucked a lot but the way I see it quitting coffee is like 10% when compared to quitting PMO.
I guess you are right. I'm definitely quitting PMO. I just don't find it as hard as quitting Hard drugs.
Hey.. Same problem with me to. Im in 30+day.. So much stress... Cant sleep early.. But i slowly i can see my life was destroy by pmo I realize that all the roots of the problem are in the pmo habit.. I can spend hours everyday looking at P.. feeling low.. not motivated.. my body looks so skinny.. and now i started nofap and go to gym and now i look muscular and strong.. erasing the pmo habit might make someone go crazy if they don't create activities and rebuild good habits make good activities communicate with someone
I relapsed after 29 days and went into a relapse cycle for 2 weeks. Now I'm back at 3 Days and it's hard. I feel low and depressed. Also I don't feel confident when I talk because I'm in a country where I didn't grow up. So speaking the language is hard most of the time. I developed sort of rambling due to being unconfident while talking in this language. It's another reason for me to PMO. So now I'm back at Day 3 and I feel debilitated by not having my "Porn safety blanket" I printed a guide by Mark Queppet called the Reboot regimen and it's been very helpful and insightful. I also started going to the gym. Went today again. I also went swimming with my group here and I had a blast. The local swimming pool has a Sauna, it's so relaxing. I think it's good to have a healthy balance of these things: active hobbies, passive hobbies. Rest, Energy Management, exercise etc... I just wish I was already at 4 months living a good life. I guess I can't have that, yet. I need to go trough the painful withdrawal phases.
I felt that too when I relapsed... I hope we never go back to mistakes for the umpteenth time... . for me now it's easier to avoid pmo.. but there are always withdrawals.. hope you will be better.. good luck to all of us
I'm better today. I had some great meditation sessions, one in the morning and then in the afternoon. It really set the mood for the day. Went to the swimming pool, then sauna. Had sort of a spa day today. Might seem girlish but it's fun and relaxing. It's important to take care of oneself. I was able to lower my withdrawal symptoms by Meditating and doing sports. Also Self talk helps. I'll do it now after I write this post. I'm on Day 4 now and I already feel better. More energized during the day and just calmer. I definitely still feel the effects of my last binge but it's getting better every hour.
Listen to this meditation everyday and it will help you will getting through flatline and any cravings. Here is also my post on how it helped me. https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/using-hypnosis-to-cure-yourself.344753/ learningstrategies.com/Paraliminal/Relationship.asp
