While being in this nofap process, i rediscovered the attachment theory from John Bowlby etc. There are 4 different kinds of attachment from youth. 1.safe attachment. You are comfortable around people and can have "normal" attachments to people around. 2. Ambivalent attachment. You are distressed around people you are trying to attach to. These people can often "open up and dump everything" on you out of fear to not attach 3. Avoidant attachment You dont want to bother and find pride in being solo. Have problems with intimacy and have a strong integrety 4. Disorganised attachment. Growing up around addicts and violence often brings this attachment. You want to attach thou your safe person is not a safe point. I think people should look into this, even if you have a normal growing up time. Understanding your attachment style is important for how our manage thru life. Why i post here about this is for those working with the NoFap and goes thru it, and dont find the "normal " will to attach to people even after a long dry period. It might not be out the porn addiction, but out of your attachment style in you as a person from the beginning. Work with stuff on the "plan" they are coming from . This was a starter and i recommend to find more literature in the subjects, including those who also give tools and advise how to turn these around to a more balanced attachment style. That might work as a stabilizing tool preventing relapses even better
