Sounds like you are talking about willpower mostly. From my guide: Willpower Surviving a wave takes a huge amount of willpower. Willpower is a finite resource. In order to survive the biggest waves, you will have to use all your willpower, which means other things you’re spending willpower on will have to slide. If you have other goals that are tough, forget them. Other things you’re working on, ignore them, unless they make good distractions. You are not superman, and the first month will take all your willpower and then some to overcome. Once you’re consistently getting to a week, then you can carefully start doing other things that take willpower. Willpower is a muscle. The more you use it, the more it grows. Use it too much, though, and it quickly wears out and becomes strained, and then everything falls over. NoFap will necessarily build massive amounts of willpower, as that’s what’s required to succeed, but building it is tough… it’s like hitting the gym, and every machine is locked to the maximum weight setting by default. There are so many other mental tricks you need to master as well... I couldn't do this at the start, but now if I feel a fantasy coming on I can just wipe my mind clear of it... at least for a little while. It gets harder as the days go on, but sometimes I can get to a full week without having any sort of full-on fantasy, just by having mental discipline and wiping my mind constantly. (Eventually it does arrive, but the later it arrives, the more reason you have to push through it )
Glad you get through okay last night (Thanks for the support early btw!) All is well this evening, feeling more calm and poised. How did work go?
I go through something kind of like this where the thought of engaging with PMO or a fantasy based off something I've seen before consumes all my awareness and no matter how many times I try to shift directions that fantasy and the related urge keeps on coming, one thing that is helping is to have a list of the consequences written out as well as coping strategies so I don't have to think through it and can just change directions with less friction (it doesn't always work but sometimes it helps)
Yeah... everything lol Marriage on verge of a hateful divorce, denied access to my kids, health issues, unemployed... any day i make it to bedtime, im proud of myself. Hope you are doing better... if you arent, at least remember things could be worse haha
Work almost over, getting urges as I type, I think I'm.going to walk home keep my mind off of it. I can relate to the post you made above about "Fantasies" (I had one tonight). often my mind wonders off into it, it's like a mini dopamine hit the more I think about it the more dopamine I make the urges sky rocket and I cave in. It happened tonight and lucky enough my colleague distracted me and I got through it. Naughty little triggers our brain just loves lol
I am not participating as a musketeer because I don't want to let you guys down! But I'm still rooting for you and trying to keep up.
All good, slowly feeling better after multiple reset days in a row last week. I can clearly see what it does to me and I am feeling very motivated to stay away from it all. The price is too high, I am not willing to pay it anymore. Have a good day everyone.
That's correct it's a great way of thinking. I mentioned this in a post years back and I still think it today it's something along the lines of "This sperm is mine, it belongs to me, Its what makes me stronger. I shall not waste another single drop." Something like that and when in the zone it really works well. Friday night another boring work shift. Let's go
Day 3 down,.into Day 4 One for all and all for one ! @musketeers @everyone Have a blessed weekend stay strong and stay safe.
Weekend check in. Not feeling the best at the moment, I'm a bit under the weather and just facing some life stuff which has disheartened me some what. Its all good though, zero desire to act out in any way and the motivation to stay clean is very high. We got this musketeers. Stay sharp. Have a good weekend everyone.
