I agree with you that having sex or getting a girlfriend won't solve porn addiction, but that's not the point I was trying to make. My point is that it's frustrating to see the dismissive attitude many (I don't mean you or anyone on this thread specifically, I mean in general) have toward sexually unfulfilled men. Men who struggle with sex or relationships are forced to endure their own person hell, in a society where sex is everywhere. It's on TV, in movies, in books. Constantly pushed at you from all sides. Most men suffer in silence because if they dare say anything, they are relentlessly bullied. I think OP's desires, when you take away his comedic wording, are very natural. There's only so much loneliness and rejection a man can take before they can't hide the frustration anymore. I got the impression that OP was using hyperbole to get his point across. He's also not in the early stages of recovery - he stated he has been abstaining for 5 months. That's a long time in my eyes.
I appreciate your honesty and personally its not so much about sex for me as it is about intimacy in general. If I only wanted to get off, I would never want to quit porn in the first place. Its something deeper that needs to be resolved. I can say that I want sex all I want and in a certain way it is about as high on my priority list as it is for you but whenever an opportunity actually presents itself, I chicken out. I dont want the actual difficulty of it. The emotions, the risk of someone becoming attached (mostly thinking about the girl since I am deathly afraid of commitment) and so on. In the end, I realize that what I really want is intimacy. The sex part is still relatively important but I wouldnt go to a prostitute for example because it would feel fake.
Same here, I crave intimacy with a woman I’m truly attracted to more than anything just hugging and holding hands while watching a movie with a girl I actually like would be more satisfying to me than having sex with a prostitute
OP really needs a trigger warning. what the hell. cmon guys, spoiler or trigger if youre describing explicit sex stuff. It isnt complicated. Sex is great of course, and intimacy which we are all often lacking. But play with fire and you gonna get burned. I know my addiction is causing 3rd degree burns to myself and others, and Im taking a break from dating until I get that under control more. Addicts want what they want, when they want it. Addicts want what they want, when they want it. Addicts want what they want, when they want it. Part of sobriety is getting away from that narcissistic thinking. i want a lot of things, but I need to earn them first with sobriety / commitment to improvement.
I dont know how trigger. If you can help I would appreciate it. I like to make my post more on the explict/M rated side. Earn what? Sex?? Its universally the most basic need What in the heck! If nookie doesn't fall into my lap organically, no I'm not going to be doing all of this self improvement crap. Who made them rules? I'm not some obedient docile slave that is being told all of these lies while meanwhile. Walter/Jaquan /Enrique is getting all of the sex with minimal improvement. Look pal no disrespect, but you got your jiggy on. Now. It's my turn. I havent "tested the waters" in years. Why do I need to be in a relationship or make alot $$$ or have this fake social media clout to t taste some sweet honey nectar?? If anything. This self improvement crap doesnt motivate me. Its bullsh*t cointel pro. Another distraction just like social media. Holding in your seed long enough it will bring out animalistic side. Makes me want to bare knuckle box over some poon tang lmao
