Hello everyone, I am finally writing my first post after regularly reading this NoFap forum for close to year now. Possible Trigger Warning! Some background: I am a 23 year old straight male. About a year ago, I was addicted to PMO and thought things would never get better until I stumbled on this wonderful forum. I am happy to say that I am currently a little over 7 months PMO free. I have no desire or urges to PMO and never want porn to be a part of life again. My problem: Over the years I have discovered that I have a real fetish. I have a silk/satin fetish. I absolutely love the fabric, equally for the feel on my hands and body and for the look. I loved satin when I was a young kid before I PMO'd, and over years of PMOing my interest in satin became sexual. I owned many pieces of satin sheets and satin/silk clothing that I often (but not always) enjoyed with PMO. When I last stopped PMOing in May, I threw away 90% of all my silk/satin possesions. I feared that seeing or using them would give me urges to PMO. While my desire to PMO is pretty much completely gone, I still have strong urges to enjoy the silk and satin. I have to admit there is still a sexual connection for me. There are times when I strongly want to put the sheets back on my bed or wear the clothing simply to enjoy the feel and touch of the fabric. I do not want it so I can intentionally PMO, but I am scared that if I induge it will eventually lead to PMO. It is hard becuase on it's own, the fabic is harmless, it is not degrading to women, it is not risky, and it is used, worn and seen in everyday life. Am I depriving myself of a simple joy? But I really really really don't want to fall back into PMO again. Should I try and use it and try to rewire my brain to enjoy it non-sexually again, similarly to my own PMO reboot. I really NEED to talk to someone who also has a fetish that it not a sexual act (or something that has no explicit sexual connection). Could you PM me, so we can talk abot how you handle(d) it?
Satin is the best ever feeling I remember the first time I put it on it was sooo nice, if you'd like to talk pm me 07407 694011
Seeing s how you had a affinity for silk/satin before becoming a PMO addict I think at some point you can go back to enjoying it. Is that time now? That's the harder question to answer and one you will have to figure out. Maybe you put limits on the silk/satin thing. For example: when you have sex with someone, then you take out the satin/silk. When it's over, you put it away. This way it becomes something you only use with real person(s).
Hey man. I'm in the same shiny boat here, hehe - but I decided to embrace it and make a side-business out of it. So I make custom satin menswear (I'll send you a link if you like). It's a sexy and actually rather innocuous fetish as fetishes go - and if you have had the satin bug from an early age (like me and you) it's damn hard to resist. Like you, I love both the look and the feel of satin - and I want it involved in all the sex I'm having, preferably - that I need to work on. Couldn't imagine being in a relationship with someone who was not into satin. In other words I'm heavily into satin gear - it's a must. I'm gay and it's not been a problem - lots of men like it, many many straight ones, too. I get reaffirmed of that whenever I go to straight clubs in my satin gear - they all want to touch and find out where I got whatever I'm wearing. It's a common fetish, I definitely think. Look, I understand your predicament but you gotta live as well - and sex (including your satin fetish) is a part of life. An enjoyable part, mostly - but all things in moderation. I'm trying to moderate my satin craving but it's not going well. Good luck on staying on the PMO straight and narrow - well done so far Best, Jay
Introduction: Fetishes is a wall that is inevitable and unavoidable to break in order to be successful on NoFap (It's my experience, I don't know about other people). I have personally experienced this myself. I myself, have had this fetish. I like you, was completely unsuccessful until I started to do NoFap. The moment I started doing NoFap, the urges from this kink were pretty strong and it was hard to deal with. I'll tell you some solutions that might help you during your journey on NoFap as well as my experiences during my NoFap journey. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ First Solution: Develop hatred towards your fetish I would honestly say that you did yourself a favor by disposing all of the silk/satin. The only reason I say that this was a good thing is because the moment you removed them, you basically removed your vices. By removing your vices, you can focus on trying to do things to occupy yourself. Try to occupy your time with something that you actually have fun doing or develop a new hobby that would help you on your journey. From keeping yourself distracted from these hobbies, you pretty much get your brain off of the urges that you might get from it. You basically tell yourself that you don't have time for things that waste your time (like indulging in satin, PMO, etc.) and you have better things to occupy yourself with that might actually benefit you in the long term. I myself, was able to get myself occupied in the form of exercise and art projects. From those things, I was actually able to distract myself and at the same time, not have the time to feel urges. I know my own experience from this might sound very basic and very common for people, but exercise did actually help with distracting myself. If I for whatever reason did get an urge, I would resolve this by either putting my phone in a different room, sit in my own room to overcome the urges and go into a silent, meditative stage or I would distract myself with something that I like to do hobby wise or for my own betterment. Second Solution: Develop hatred towards the sexual connection of satin Another thing you can do is develop a hatred towards your kink. Hate is a strong emotion and word, but if used correctly it can be the ultimate succession of your journey on NoFap. By developing hate for your fetish towards satin, you basically reinforce your brain to dislike your sexual aspect for satin, which can also eliminate your sexual urges that were amplified by your fetish. It worked marvels for me and I think that this will be useful for you as well. Third Solution: Stop counting your days on NoFap and start journaling I'll explain what I mean from this. I mean that by counting your days, you basically make yourself likely more prone to relapse on your journey on NoFap. If you want to note when you started your journey, just start writing in a journal the date you started NoFap. Start journaling your experiences, your emotions, anything that you might be feeling while you write. The world is your oyster. Fourth and Final Solution (Part 2 of Third Solution): Don't stigmatize your relapse, try to learn from it and better yourself from that experience Stigmatizing your relapse doesn't do you any good. You might think that stigmatizing your relapse will stop you from relapsing, but it does the opposite. Journal your relapse and what made you relapse. Trust me, this actually works and it will work for you. You learn how to get better from that experience and continue your NoFap streak for a longer amount of time. I am now going to answer all of your questions as it seems that you were (I don't know if you are still considering this was written 8-9 years ago) pretty hesitant for an answer. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ First Question: "Am I depriving myself of a simple joy?" Trust me, you are not depriving yourself of anything. If anything, you're working for experiences that are going to be better if you remove satin. You will feel less clouded in your mind over time, and you'll start to enjoy a variety of things other than the sexual urges that you get from satin. There is a lot more in this world to work for (Delayed Gratification) and you'll feel better for working towards those things. Second Question: "Should I try and use it and try to rewire my brain to enjoy it non-sexually again, similarly to my own PMO reboot?" If you think that you have complete control of your urges, go ahead and see if it works. Most of the solutions I provided might or attempt to help you get over these urges, and you could go back to satin if you think you don't have those sexual urges and PMO urges linked to it anymore. If you think that those urges are coming back, just remove them entirely. I however, believe that having satin urges actively present in your NoFap journey can become a problem. I (in my own experience) was always compulsive to my kink and I let it control me. The moment I removed it from my life and I distracted myself with things that would develop me as a person, I felt free. It wasn't easy getting over, but it is possible. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Conclusion: Good luck on your current journey Honestly, it is your choice to take action. The person who has the most willpower can do anything. I understand that I'm replying to a post from 8-9 years ago, but I couldn't help but relate to this post which is why I joined the NoFap fourm and responded to this specific thread. I have had the same problems with this kink, but I was able to control myself within this journey. I think you can do this as well.
I've had a few fetishes myself. Some included material like satin. The reason--or part of the reason--dawned on me when I read an article about why people like shiny things. Humans seem to be wired to be visually attracted to shiny things because water naturally shines and reflects. Water is the most necessary substance for our survival, so it makes sense that we want to be drawn to it. If that's the case, no wonder so many men develop attractions to women's clothing that shines and sparkles. Once I realized this, I started telling myself, "Ah, yes, you like the shiny garment she's wearing because you're attracted to water." And then I found it easier to move on and go about my business.
