Introducing a way to support NoFap's expenses (basically a plea for help)

I don't think a subscription is about the value of what you're getting back. It's specifically about giving back to a worth cause. Maybe it is too much for some. We can see that others have chipped in the ante, and I intend to, as well. I don't think there's any pressure - so if anyone doesn't have it, then that's ok, right? What we need right now is just enough of /those/ people that do have this amount to kick off the support and relieve Alexander when he's made a "plea for help".

For me, it's more a conscious decision to give back and support NoFap so that it stays here. This is a worthwhile cause. This may not be the only resource out there, but it's by far the most open and easily accessible. It's also perhaps the 'cleanest' in terms of being trigger-free. The money is not so much for Alexander, any monetization and profit which is 100% okay in my book anyways (as long as it's transparent), but it's really for the community to have and share. Sort of like the Western world donating to Wikipedia, for the benefit of mankind. Porn is harmful, and it's great to have somewhere supportive to turn for education and support. Thanks, Alexander.

 

Countless websites offer advice for careers, health, DIY, technology, relationships, exercise et cetera et cetera for free. Countless more forums exist with users who help people looking for advice. That's all this site is. I would say NoFap has changed my life but I found out about it on Bodybuilding.com and learned the science behind pornography from a TED talk on Youtube and on YBOP. I've no doubt there are plenty of forums with people trying to cut down on porn and there are plenty of communities who will be interested if you made a thread on NoFap and asked for support, and I doubt many of them would ask for money. I'm not saying this site isn't amazing and useful and or the goal isn't important. But I don't think you do anything special, so I won't give you my money.

 

I would like to mention that he created this asking for help. I have no qualms with people donating less than $10 a month, but I do believe this to be way more important than a Netflix or Spotify sub or even a gym sub. No one will be pulling you by your ear to sub.

This is for people who have the money to sub. I agree that other countries should be listed, but I also believe the way you wanna go about it is a little silly. Everything you are saying is undermining what we are trying to do here. I feel like your almost trying to make it out to be something that it's not. You can donate without commitment. You don't have to donate if you don't want to.

I feel like the comment about his signature was also irrelevant and slightly insulting. If you happen to be a certain user recently named FreedomFlight, you will not win my friend

 

What exactly is Alexander going to do with $1500 every month anyway?

 

Watch the fucking video FreedomFlight!

 

Did you guys think about showing ads on the forum. Offensive ads can be blocked. Google Adsense is probably the best

 

Yeah, but if you watch the video it explains why he doesn't want to run ads.

 

And, I'd personally like no ads and would rather pay for the site to just be here if it came down to that. Not saying I'd leave over ads, but the Internet is choked with ads and it's really nice to find a haven. I don't know about insulting, but tone moderation would be nice. Why post a "no" vote. Just don't donate. Sheesh.

 

I don't know who FreedomFlight is but if there is any doubt as to the authenticity of my account I suggest you go and have a look at the a journal I've kept here for 40 days and counting.

I have better things to do than watch that 30 minute video but from what I can gather he has reasonable website and servers costs, but also such important costs as: buying a camera to film an unnecessary video, and travel expense to go to a different state to film an unnecessary video. On the matter of plugins: NoFap is seriously the best functioning forums I visit, so it doesn't surprise that you are paying money for good plug-ins, but all those other websites are still more than adequately functional, and if you need to ask users for $10/month for fund the website maybe you are aiming too high and you can scale back on things.

Does he gives a breakdown in the video of this $1500/month? I'm not saying it isn't legit, but I don't yet understand it.

 

Well, I have nothing else to say on the matter. Based on the site so far I'm sure NoFap will go far with you at it's helm, and though I won't be subscribing I hope you make good use of the money you do get and I look forward to seeing how NoFap develops over the coming years.

 

No one is compelled to contribute to this site - the service is free at the point of delivery. All I can say is that this community and the service provided by @alexander and the other volunteers has been an absolute lifeline to me - as I know it is to so many others. My life would be so much worse right now if it were not for the strength & support I gain when I come here. $10 seems so little when compared with what we receive in return.

 

Hi Alexander:
You do not need to explain what is obvious, man.
What you are doing is great, you do not even need to spend time in putting receipts together while you can use this time to take a rest and think how you can keep doing your excellent job.
BTW, for nondescript and all those who are sceptic: one hour of therapy costs 100-150 bucks. The use that we are using to this site worth much more than 10-20 bucks per month.
Keep pushing, we are in this fight altogether
fercho29

 

Hey Alexander! As a software developer I totally get your frustration when you read comments like the ones of nondescript... The effort involved in the preparation of the site, plus the unavoidable investment of time that maintenance requires tend to be unrecognized specially when the product is well developed and sustained (my respects on that, btw). I personally appreciate the labor you're doing here for me and other people so, thank you!

 

I'm quite surprised at the disdain toward being asked for a small contribution. There is nothing rude about asking for help. Asking for help - isn't that what we do on this site? I know that to stay away from my addiction(s) I have to be rigorously honest. Being honest, at least for me, is making a contribution toward something I benefit from.

At one point in my life I didn't think twice about throwing down $20 for porn or a membership in some unsavory online "community". Was I concerned about their overhead costs? Today I am gratefully able to contribute and take some level of responsibility for the things I ultimately benefit from. And when I'm not grateful, I try not to push people away today that I may need tomorrow.

 

Good call, @Sursum Corda !

 

I sincerely intend to be contributing as soon as I emerge out of debt. I need to say, to put my conscience at rest, I wish I was never scammed out of the great amount of money I have lost in my life... But then again, if I was not suffering economically, neither would I have allowed myself to be suffer from PMO addiction and I would not have joined up here in the first place. This place is my last hope.

I pray every night that the porn industry collapses and breaks down. I am not the only man who is sick and tired of seeing endless porn and millions of provocative images everywhere. Enough is really enough. I also pray that I break out of debt as soon as possible so I can support your cause. I honestly believe it's obligation upon us, as a humanity which is suffering from lack of social interaction and population decline, to support Nofap and bring down the porn industry before the porn industry brings down humanity.

 

If I donate. Please don't give me any perks, especially the ones that would cost noFap more money or cause you all to earn less money... for example...

• Unlimited private conversations (these cost server space to host!)
• Guaranteed no-advertising (we'll likely need to introduce some sort of forum adverts to help offset some of the costs)

And... a really bad ass perk would be if I had the option to opt-in to even more ads.

thanks
MrMomandAddicted

 

Ya'll back off of @nondescript. My guess is that he was (at least initially) coming from a good place. When Alexander posts a cry for help for money, it pulls at people hearts (at least a little bit). And... some people come running to give aid and find that they can't afford to help as much as was requested.

I can understand nondescript's initial frustration of wanting to give, but not being able to give what Alexander requested, due to being on a tight budget and already giving money to other causes. I'd like to give nondescript the benefit of the doubt and hope the remainder of nondescript's posts were simply the product of his defense of his initial comments getting more and more out of hand. I would hate to drive nondescript away from the forums.

 

Thank you, that was a great and needed post.