These concepts are useless. Don't blame things on "human nature". To be human is to ignore human nature and do what YOU want to do. People like to tell us masturbation is healthy and porn is normal. We know it's not. We are pioneers! We are seeing what happens when a human is not consumed by sexual desire. Let's blaze a trail and let the rest of the world know they're the weird ones. They're the ones that let pleasure rule their lives. This world is HYPER sexualized, it's not healthy, but we can be. Don't let people tell you things are impossible or even difficult. The only limits are the ones you set for yourself. If you see 90 days as an extremely hard, difficult goal to achieve, it will remain just that. Think of this as easy and it shall be. Open your mind and widen your perspective. Just think how utterly insignificant this is, how truly LARGER we are then just this single part of us, our sexuality. You are so powerful! Every one of you is capable of so much good! I'm crying as I'm writing this because it's true! Stop limiting yourself and embrace the endless possibilities of YOU, all you can be without this God forsaken burden. You have the power, you have the strength to thrust this demon off you, I know you do! Be done with this NOW, just let it go... PLEASE LET GO.
Hell no he's not! He has an extremely unique, inspiring perspective on this issue; it's truly stirring.
right i have to thrust this demon off me. this demon is stealing life-energy from me. i fed this demon all the years. i built him and made him strong - so i must be able to destroy him. thanks for motivating.
It was not easy IGY. I don't mean to minimize the struggles we face, they are real and significant. But really, if all we focus on is the difficulty of the task, it will be even harder. Logically monkotto, if you made him you should be able to kill him right? You gave him life, now you can take it away.
Reminds me of the story the grandfather told his grandson about the two wolves... not sure if you have read it before. Whatever endeavours you put your energy and time into will continue to grow and manifest, either into something that is worthwhile and positive, or manifest into something ugly that will demand for more attention. http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/
@beauty someone posted the story in another thread - very simple but really impressive story. @melancholy in my case this addiction started quite late (i am also sexaddicted). i was around 24 years old. here are boys starting with 10 or eleven years - thats insane! i am 36 years old. there was no internet when i was younger. getting porn stuff was not so easy. nowadays there are thousands of free pornsites. i can remember how i was before this damn addiction - i was free. i want to be that guy again. right i am trying to kill this shitty demon. i have to be stronger.
I love that story Beauty. You got this monk. Monks have the best self-control in the world. Live up to your namesake and take control. This idea that we're somehow ruled by fate or destiny is BS. WE ARE IN CONTROL. Exercise your free will and conquer this. I pushed through a dark patch and feel strong as heck now. I can say with absolute certainty that I'll never relapse again. Go ahead and call me over confident. You'll see in 206 days. I mean, it just kinda hit me. Did pioneers of a field ask if something was possible? Why should we accept so called "conventional" wisdom. Humans used to think a sub 4 minute mile was physically impossible. Ha! How wrong they were. To conquer sex is not impossible, it may impossible to eliminate out sexuality but we can USE it! We can divert it!
@melancholy i am sure you know the william-thread get educated, get tools and learn to love withdrawals this statement - learn to love withdrawals - is really very important for me. i am fighting right now but i want to reach that point. this is a very long process. how long was your longest streak?