how to change your identity?

Change your attention for something more elevated. You describe yourself as worthless, what is already wrong because you are telling yourself you don't have nothing to add to your own or other people, self-love is the beggining. Everybody here struggle with that problem, forgive yourself for a new fresh start.

Start to develop new healthy habits like doing physical exercisea, eatong healthy, etc. Everything have a start point, take something to do and focus on it. And don't forget, relapses make part of the journey, don't get too upset and learn to get better.

 

Another thing that has helped me is changing how I speak to be more objective and reflect my best self. It sounds pedagogic but it actually makes a significant difference. It’s by no means the lions share and off course like everything people suggest it’s optional but I can say from experience it has helped a good bit.

 

First up, it's like you've been on a roller coaster that's more twisted than a pretzel in a tornado. You started off with what seemed like a harmless ride – just some 'normal' porn. But before you knew it, you were on the express train to a place where self-respect and confidence are as scarce as water in a desert.

Let's break it down: You’re caught in a loop where femdom and humiliation videos are messing with your head, making you feel like you're worth less than the gum stuck under a school desk. It's like your brain’s been hijacked by a toxic radio station, playing the same demoralizing song on repeat. But here’s the kicker – that station? It's not broadcasting the truth. It’s spinning lies, and you’ve been listening for too long.

Your journey with porn and masturbation is like a shadow that's been following you around, creeping into every corner of your life – your anxiety, your depression, your lack of energy. It’s like a sneaky pickpocket, stealing bits of your life without you even noticing. And now, it's got its fingers in your finals, your gym routine, your entire self-improvement journey.

But here’s the light at the end of this tunnel: You're not a lost cause. You’re not a 'loser', a 'cuck', or whatever those videos are trying to sell you. You’re a person who's been tricked into wearing glasses that distort your self-image. It’s time to take those glasses off and see yourself for who you really are – someone with potential, strength, and worth.

Quitting this habit isn't just about stopping the fapping; it's about rewiring your brain, scrubbing off those layers of grime that porn has painted over your self-esteem. It's like cleaning a masterpiece painting that’s been covered in dirt – underneath all that, there’s something valuable and beautiful.

So, what's the game plan? First, recognize that these videos and your addiction don't define you. They’re not the sum total of your worth. Second, start replacing those negative beliefs with positive affirmations. It might feel as awkward as dancing in a chicken suit at first, but with time, it'll start to feel more natural.

Next, develop a safety net for when things go south – like catching a cold or feeling down. It's easy to slide back into old habits when you hit a bump, but having a plan can be like having an emotional first aid kit. Instead of turning to porn, turn to a hobby, a friend, a book – anything with real value and meaning that breaks the cycle.

And finally, remember this: You're in the driver's seat. Your past doesn't have to dictate your future. Every day is a new chance to steer your life in the direction you want it to go. You’ve already shown you can make progress. Those seven days of nofap and hitting the gym? That’s proof you’ve got the strength to fight this.

You're reaching out for help, and that's a huge step. Keep reaching, keep fighting. You're not alone in this, and it’s never too late to turn the page and start a new chapter – one where you're the hero, not the sidekick in your own story

 

First off, in my opinion, the best thing you can do for yourself here is to get into some CSAT therapy. My guess would be that from childhood, you probably had some significant rejection and your self-esteem and confidence were both seriously affected by it. That's my case anyway, and that kind of humiliation porn was what I watched a lot.

Also, I wouldn't look at it this way. Convincing yourself of something sounds like it might not necessarily be the case of what's actually true. You need to actually see that you're not a loser, and that you do actually have great potential!! CSAT therapy will absolutely help you do just that!

Best of luck!