my first attempt at nofap i managed to go 28 days without PMOing. I was starting to see some real benefits from this too. My depression and anxiety had both been reduced and in the first time in years i was starting to feel a little good about my self. Since that streak i have relapsed 4 or 5 times in a couple of weeks. I seem to get around day four and relapse. I'm not sure what my triggers are apart from being at home alone. I think i need to keep myself busy until the time i go to bed otherwise a relapse seems inevitable at the moment. I don't feel like I've lost any of my motivation but this seems to be getting harder after each relapse. A couple of my relapses were without porn so i don't feel as bad for that. I PMO'd twice tonight and for that i feel terrible.
One of the triggers for everyone is boredom. It causes you to go looking for things that you shouldn't be looking for. You need to figure out what exactly is triggering you besides that. Boredom is very easy to avoid, but somethings might take an active effort. Are you relapsing on your phone or computer? If so then I would suggest getting some blocking software. If it is TV shows or pretty women then there are many tactics you can use to avoid it that stuff, but you have to be firm and serious about it in order to make it. 28 days is a awesome time. If you wouldn't have binged then you would have made lots of progress. You fell back into your old habits and that is why you are back to square one.
Yea I agree with the whole boredom being one of the worst triggers. Most of the bad things I get up to are partly down to boredom. Last night wasn't though. I had been with friends all evening came home and pmo'd twice. Can't think of a reason why other than I was to weak not to stand up to the urge. I have relapsed both on my phone and computer but mainly the computer. Maybe some form of porn blocker is a good idea. But I've always had the attitude of , if you want something bad enough you will find a way to get it anyway. Still it certainly can't do any harm and would make it harder for me to access porn. Do u think with the amount of times I've relapsed my reboot is really back to day 1? I still feel like I've made a lot of progress. Before I was PMOing at least once a day, most days it would be twice. I don't feel half as messed up in the head as I did before I started NoFap. Porn was a real obsession and took up a lot of my time. I've realised know how much a decade of PMOing has had a negative effect on my life. It's caused me to have PIED, I think a lot of my depresion and anxiety over the years has been elevated by this and it's made me usless with girls. I need to stop this addiction before it takes any more of my life away from me.
One thing that has helped me is to realize the battle is fought in your head between tour sub conscious desires and your conscious will. I start with a random thought and it comes to fruition... Eg, I wonder what a Asian lady would look like in porn... If I continue to dwell on the thought I lose. Hence I have what I call... Change the channel thoughts... And those thoughts are things I want to do in life that bring me happiness... Being outdoors, sports, hobbies. In a sense that's removing the boredom. That being said a 28 day streak is a good goal to beat... Keep at it!! Change the channel.
thanks for the encouragement man. I'm still on this rocky train and i'm doing my best to hold on. The weather is getting good now so naturally will be spending more time outdoors. I will remember those words when i need to bro. "CHANGE THE CHANNEL"
