Hey NoFappers, The last six year stretch of freedom that I had started with an exercise about perspective. This is not about how you see the world but about how you see your life. For some of you, you may see yourself as a tremendous failure, you may see yourself as uniquely flawed, you may see your life as unbelievably unfair, you may think you totally rock and all that. Cool. So, here is how this goes: Look at your life and pick three critical events from birth till now that made you the way that you are. Step 1 - Describe these three events as you remember them as clearly as you can. Step 2 - Describe the same three events from the perspective of an outsider as if they were reporting the events. Step 3 - Describe the same three events from the view point of Pollyanna (everything is perfect, no matter how bad). Step 4 - Describe the same three events from the view point of the ultimate victim (everything sucks, no matter how good) Do this in a post here, sharing is caring. Once you do all of that get some perspective by reading other posts and then go to this site: imwithlizzie.com. Sometimes when we get some perspective we are freed up from all of our own crap and it gives us a renewed energy to improve.
I'll go first Step 1 - At five years old my mom left me at home by myself when I was sick, she told me to go to the neighbor if I needed help. While she was gone I discovered porn in my dad's desk. When I was eleven my parents divorced which left me with just my mom because my dad and brother moved out together, she was rarely home because of work and trying to rebuild her life: I remember waking up, going to school, coming home and going to bed in an empty house without seeing a family member. At 26, I was divorced after a 22-month marriage and then the army told me my service was no longer required (they forced me out due to reductions). Step 2 - At five years old jfromcr's mom had to go to work to keep food on the table and didn't have time to get a sitter. She did the best she could and provided a place for him to go since she would not be gone long (4 hours). jfromcr is a curious kid and found something he was not ready for that affected him greatly. When he was 11, his parents divorced after years of fighting and stress, this actually helped jfromcr to relax because his dad and brother created a lot of stress for him. His single mom had no credit and no money, dad didn't pay the $100 child support he was supposed to. So his mom did all she could to keep a job and build a new life. When he was 26, the woman that he was married to asked for a divorce after a lot of fighting and her own addictions. jfromcr really didn't want to be in the military forever and didn't know that better things awaited him. Step 3 - At five years old jfromcr's mom left to go to work and trusted him to behave while she was gone, he's such a good boy nothing will happen. Being a curious sort he had a wonderful time exploring the house and even found some beautiful pictures that kept him company. When jfromcr turned eleven his parents divorced which was great because then he would have two homes to live in and not have to deal with his mean older brother as much. His mother's absences though frequent were a great chance for jfromcr to learn self-reliance and self-determination and he could eat anything he wanted and go anywhere without restrictions. At the age of 26, jfromcr was divorced by his first wife which was awesome because then he wouldn't have to sleep on the floor anymore or wonder where she was. He also was given the opportunity to find a new career better suited to his interests. Step 4 - At five years old jfromcr's mom left him at home to go to her stupid job that provided the awful food he grew up with. She did care if he did anything stupid be cause he was expendable. He found porn in his dad's desk which would ruin him for the rest of his life. At eleven, jfromcr's parents divorced, probably the only family that did that year, leaving him with no dad or brother he could talk to. His mother again sought more important things like friends and a paycheck, he didn't matter. He probably was doing something bad anyway. At 26, his wife left because he was so angry and stupid and picked the absolutely wrong person to be with. To top it off he was so bad at being a soldier they kicked him out.
