Starting 30 day challenge. Shame is destroying me.

we're not - reason is that I didn't have a big P or M habit going, so 90 days hard mode with no sex at all seemed to me like the minimum serious shot at a reboot.

Great benefit so far, is that I've come to see my challenge is about rediscovering love without sex, and really projecting that feeling, and letting my wife feel really super loved by me.

 

Good on you man. Just banish those P images from your mind. All power to you!

 

Day 9 eh?
Man I don't know about you but waking up is getting difficult
The urge is the srongest while waking up and going to bed (at least for me)
Dreams are now trying to replace P, M and the Os. I have noticed this before when over coming addictions. At around two weeks or so I start dreaming very vividly about the things I am trying to give up. Sometimes to the point of actually feeling the effects upon waking.
Nocturnal emmisions are a big obstacle around this point, it hasn't happened yet but it has been close. Luckily the mantra "PMO is not an option" has a place in my subconscious now so it snapped me out at the last moment.
How is everyone faring?
Does anyone else experience dreams that lead to a nocturnal emmision? And any tips for that?
Stay strong and vigilant people!

Oh, and master in response to do we make love during a reboot: we do not personally.
I am no expert on this as I am new to this site so others may tell you differently but it would seem appropriate to talk to your wife about abstaining with you just for maybe the 30 days so you can get a strong handle on things. But it would also be wise to not make your wife feel as if she is being punished and neglected over this. Just like men women use sex as a way to feel appreciated loved ect. So I believe she would benefit from joining you but just trust what is best for the sake of your marriage.