I feel like a feral beast. All I think about is sex. I'm seriously considering to find a prostitute to lose my virginity because I can't deal with it anymore. My religious views don't view this as a good thing. What should I do?
I will agree with A Soul. You need to understand that controlling the body is not something easy, but you must start with something small.. and work your way up.
Well, I honestly would go to the opposite. You're very young, at that age you have hormones at their peaks so it's very difficult to practice abstinence... More than a prostitute I would go with an escort, that's safer. I can't see this as a bad thing... Way better than porn. The only thing you have to keep track of is the addiction to that practice, but one time or once in a while.. I can't see the problem.
It does feel like a need, but it's not. It never has been and it never will be. Join an SA group to get some accountability. That will always be the best tool to stay sexually sober in my opinion. Sex with escorts, prostitutes, or anyone who isn't devoted only to you can bring pregnancies, STD's, and all kinds of trouble you had no idea could come. My advice is to NEVER listen to people peddling trash like sex with women is better than watching porn. For an addict, it's ALL poison.
Apart the STD's (which you can get even with "normal" girls -because even girls love occasional sex-, and you always, always, always, ALWAYS need to use protections) we need to be realistic. One thing is when you suffer from PIED from decades of compulsive M on porn, the other thing is having real sex as a "not really addict". We all had 22yo, and we know how horny we were at that age. Even if he watch porn in a compulsive way, at that age you're still not suffering from PIED. You're 100% working. Stopping to watch porn and made real sex would be way and way better than binging on porn. Of course, having intercourse with a girlfriend would be a lot better, but if he can't get a gf now, he can't live years with full celibacy. I think sometimes we're too much 'extreme' in this "nopmo" philosophy. We don't need to be a monk here, and the aim is to not MO on porn, not to practice full celibacy until death (if we don't have a gf or wife). The celibacy makes sense for those (me included) who suffers from strong PIED after 20-30 years of PMO and needs to (try to) reboot, not to remove sex at all if we don't have a gf or wife.
It could be hard, i know, I 'm 26 and I 've been straggling with porn for years aswell.. But doing something active helps me.. Do cycling, go running, when you get an urge just stop what your are doing go outside..
brother you have to understand this sex and mastrubation was created by god as the most powerful form of satisfaction known to humans. i have known people who abuse it so much that they get bored of it, sex is somthing you should have with a person not enjoy but to connect with that person, forge a stronger bond of love between two. what you want is somthing you want to enjoy, which can be done normally by working out or doing things that you like. i mean if you still want to have sex get a nice girlfriend and date for atleast 1 weeks and when the mood's right start a kiss and when you feel that the persons right start with consent and make love( imean dont just fuck) while choosing a girl dont do the romantic aproach because your eyes when in romantic apraoch ignore all the flaws which you will end up regretting afterwards also if its peer pressure to have sex just ignore them stay away from them or just tell what you really want. these are my views just think what you want and not what your body wants(hormonal pleasure)
Hiring a prostitute is ok, but only if It's in a country where prostitution is legal and regulated. If you live in a country where prostitution is illegal, then the prostitute you hire will probably be a victim of sex trafficking, and probably has a pimp who steals all her money. Make sure you are having sex with a registered prostitute through a reputable business. Never have sex with a prostitute without a condom. There's nothing immoral or dishonorable about prostitution. It's an honest job like any other. All I'm saying is that you should know the risks and how to avoid them.
Don't listen to the first response.Them giving you misinformation will lead you down to a 40 yr old virgin if you keep taking their advice. Their is nothing wrong with getting your rocks off, if you gotta pay so be it. You will keep being sexually inexperience the longer you wait.
Do not get a prostitute. You need to talk to women and learn how to be competent. Then you will be able to meet the right woman and make love the right way. Don’t try to cut corners. There’s a huge difference between making love with a successful beautiful and pure woman and a woman who is ruining her life and you’re paying her for it. The difference is the work you put in and what you think this is worth.
This is absolutely some of the worst advice I've ever seen given. Are you serious?!?!?! Get sex by any means, even if you have to pay for it??? Don't worry about pregnancies, jealous exes, or even husband's, STD's, getting robbed, injured, or worse..... because at the end of the day, someone catching aids and getting mugged by a prostitute or a pimp doesn't matter AT ALL, because he had sex.
I misread your post at first, which confused me a little. I would like to add that if you live in a country where prostitution is legal, then the prostitute you hire will probably be a victim of sex trafficking, and probably has a pimp who steals all her money. Which, to me, is quite enough to make it immoral indeed (it is hard to get good numbers on this issue, because human trafficking victims would rather not admit that they were trafficked, as they don't want to be sent back to the country they fled from, and because the pimps are threatening them. But I would be quite surprised if more than 10% of prostitutes are in the business voluntarily).
Escorts are in the business by their own will. In this epoch, a lot of times you can also find these girls making business on OF as well. A good amount are also "local" girls, total different from streets prostitute. In some countries where prostitution is legal (for example Austria), you can even find wellness centers where where these girls "works" (and they're healthy checked and certified on a monthly basis). Don't know if the same apply in US or other different countries besides EU.
In countries where prostitution is not legal, forced prostitutes are afraid to seek help from the police, because they are scared of being jailed for prostitution. However, in countries like the Netherlands or Germany, where prostitution is legal and regulated (and seen as a legitimate job) prostitutes usually enjoy a large number of labor protections, including minimum wage, safe working conditions, paid holidays, a 40-hour work week, etc.