Been a few years haven't been in a relationship in years haven't had any friends in years and essentially haven't had sex in years either the way it goes is I do absolutely nothing with my life . Well don't get me wrong I do thing but my life is virtually empty socially romantically and sexually . I lost my virginity at an earlyish age and continued to have sex with multiple girls and women until about age 25. Then I pretty much went off the radar with unemployment, no gf no friends and it's been this lifestyle for 7 years I've been unemployed for 1. . I don't see that much changing over the next few years and I'm beginning to believe I will never have sex again . I see girls about and occasionally get the odd smile but I don't go anywhere and have no social life at all I'm going nowhere in life and I probably won't be going anywhere.ibe just gone to shit . Put on about 30lbs rarely go out anymore and am essentially going nowhere
Sounds like you gotta make some changes in your life. Don't think in terms of "never" or "always." You're capable of changing a lot of the things you've mentioned here that you seem to be unhappy about. You just have to take things one day and one step at a time.
I know you're probably looking for people to sympathize with, but to answer your question I'm not really concerned, and given that's the case and still I have no interest in PMO that's one of the ways I can tell something deep has shifted for me. It's actually similar on a general social level, because there's that experience where I know there are some things that I'm interested in that I can't even begin to talk about with a lot of people, who are nice enough and everything, but I have to be realistic. I'm not going to not be interested in it just to fit in or something so... That's just the way it is. Of course as unusual as ones interests are there are people out there even if you have to work a little bit to find them.
I relate, except that I've never actually had it. There were times the loneliness really got to me, but I've begun setting goals for myself, working toward them, and attempting to go out more and it's helping. It takes patience and motivation, it's just that sometimes you run out of both.
So you're in your 30s now, very similar to me. I have been single and sex free 6 years. Perhaps you want a meaningful relationship now? I do. I don't want random sex. I find it boring and disconnecting without mental connection. The whole sex craze is a 20s thing on getting laid with as many people as possible. The other problem is nowadays there is online dating and women have surplus guys messaging them so they are picky. I also find women on dating sites not so serious. Nowadays it's just all texts and people don't speak on the phone let alone go on dates.
Concerned I'll never have sex. For me a big part of why I want to quit porn is how apathetic it makes me to this. When lust takes over I dont care about the damage I'm doing to myself.
I agree with alot of what you said alot of people don't even know what propels them other than go for.the best expectations. Bible says ( ft Scot project "listen to me mama)
I am in a relationship and we do have sex, its just really decreased the last couple years. We do it like once or twice a month these days. Its enjoyable when we do get down to business so I don't understand why we don't do it more often.
Its like food, for some people sex is their favourite food. Even if the experience is not that novel or fantastic anymore, they still enjoy it a lot, so they desire it often. For others its like that good dish they like but they have already been eating it their whole life. Its enjoyable but they do not crave it.
To answer your question: no, it is overrated. To reply on your post: Are you seeking advice? Do you want things to change? Are you seeking sympathy and comfort? What are you looking for? Answer and we shall help.
Yes, I don't even know how to meet girls. The most common ways are through school/college but I'm not in school anymore. At work but I work by myself. Through friends but I don't have any. Online/dating apps but swiping through pics of girls on a screen definitely isn't a good thing for me to be doing right now, plus from everything I read these apps are of little use unless you're Brad Pitt. People say to join a dance class or yoga class or something but this just feels disingenuous to me as I don't have any interest in these things. I'd purely be going there to meet women, women who are there to dance and do yoga, not get hit on. Lastly there's the bar/club scene but even putting my severe social anxiety aside for a minute, is it not considered very weird to go to these places alone? I just picture myself awkwardly hanging around on my own while everyone else in their groups, plus I don't even really like alcohol. I'm not paying a hooker either. I don't know, maybe I just have very self-limiting beliefs but it seems like all those avenues are closed for me. I hate porn but at least one benefit of it is that it makes me numb to these thoughts.
Your value in life shouldn't be on how much sex you do. But if it's important for you - push yourself. There are plenty of girls looking to have sex, they literally have nothing else going on in their lives. It might be easier than you think. But I really think you should first boost your self confidence. Maybe take a course on dating. If you need further help DM me, but it's all up to you. if it's important for you - you can do it. Just work hard and you'll get there. Start with nofap.
