So I started nofap 2 weeks ago, in the meantime I met this girl and last night we decided to get freaky, she started sucking me and THAT got me hard, then when we wanted to have sex I came before I could even put it in her, this morning we tried again but I simply couldn't get hard, idk why that's happening, I tried on my own and my dick still gets hard without porn, but it just didn't work with the girl here, do u think it's because of porn addiction? or perhaps I'm nervous because she's my first, I'll be honest I was pretty calm until my boner didn't work, then I (OBVIOUSLY) got nervous, wt do u guys think?
Sounds like it has something to do with porn... Can't know though. Just stay comitted to fighting PMO und see what happens. Best of luck!
you could be nervous, but you can also have issues with porn. Three things can happen in my mind: 1- You get pornish ideas and your mind/body gets over-excited quick....that leads to PE. 2- You are desensitized, and regular sex is not enough at times to get you hard. 3- Add a little performance anxiety/stress into the equation and blood flow gets redirected to the vital organs (away from extremities)..this is what stress does to the body.
I was going to reply but Ikindaknew said it exactly as I would have put it. You have to give it time for your brain to re-wire to be able to have sex with a real person. Well I guess I did reply!
Maybe it's related to porn, but I'd say probably not. I think your situation is simply performance anxiety. I have the same problem because I tend to get a little too in my head about things. I'm going to take a wild guess and say you were thinking a lot about not cumming too early. Don't worry about it, things like this happen to all of us and its especially common if it's been weeks since you've had a "release" so to speak. That doesn't mean you should quit nofap, it just means that you may run in to these types of problems. Also, it could just be that you weren't really feeling like having sex right then.
yeah man, I was freaking out about cumming too soon, to the point were it could have affected me, idk next time I'll try to get a bit drunk to calm down