What are you willing to sacrifice?

I think any screen time that involves high releases of dopemine such as social media, youtube, video game, suggestive tv show, and online dating will affect PMO addicts much stronger than your average person. Being you already crave that dopemine hit you can easily devlop unhealthy habits with any of the above. which really makes rewiring from that stimulus harder.

 

That fair. I stare a computer screen for work almost all day but when I get home from work try to do activities where screen time is not involved. Like switching from youtube to listening to only podcasts has been an improvement for me

 

Bro anything can be a trigger depending on your circumstance's. I was in a relationship where my girlfriend encouraged me to watch P as she was as well on regular basis. so our love life warped by this unhealthy habit. When I told her I was done with PMO she didn't get it and claimed I was normal when I was clearly out control watching P multiple times per day so she had to go and we broke up.

 

Wise words, that I have seen proven true in my own life many times

 

I threw away a fleshlight today. A promise I made to the universe and myself, I pray that I will never watch porn deliberately ever again.

 

Every mf thing. Every bit of my life.

 

Are we willing to sacrifice our assumption that sex is only about reproduction and “pleasure,” and nothing else whatsoever?

 

That's the truth

 

I thought your wife was trying to have sex with you and you considered it a relapse. Now that you've explained more I think I have more of an understanding of what was going on. Women can absolutely be abusive and it's good you got out of the relationship. I once watched a documentary about a guy who was getting beaten up by his girlfriend. He was brought up with the idea that a man should never hit a woman so he never defended himself and he was too embarrassed to admit that a woman was beating him up so he just let her do whatever she wanted. It was only when the police started investigating that he finally admitted to what she was doing. By the sound of things it was emotional abuse you received rather than physical which is just as bad. Glad to hear you're doing better now.

 

If you do a retrospection on your life you may well find yourself rethinking your statement. How about it?!
Here’s three questions you could try asking yourself:
1) Who has helped me in my life and how?
2) Who have I helped in my life and how?
3) What harm have I caused to others?

 

Throwing away a flesh light is start! Its show you are willing to change your habits. I like the "promise" but try to think of your addiction like a problem to solve and not just use will power. Think I could improve this or remove this piece and keep going until you find a balance that works. this can take years. I seriously started this process 2 years ago and went from daily relaspes to weeks to month's but more important PMO doesn't control me on daily basis.

 

I love it Bro! Find what you need and eliminate what you don't. that the name of the game.

 

What do you think Sex is about?

 

Mine are the worst on the planet. I have fever whenever I pass fourteen day or 25 and nightmares in which I have act of nnn with someone I know.Fever is not related to anything in the brain I had the scans done and there is nothing to worry about thus it is the effect of xxx. Honestly I doubt that this fever will ever end. it is like getting 38/39 out of blue for like two hours and the urges are not that potent once when I could not stand this fever I did this dirty shit and guess what, fever did not appeared till I got the 13-15 day.

 

Well, aside from reproduction, what if it is a way to transmute both the sexual energy and "negative" thought/emotion?

 

Are we willing to sacrifice the continual avoidance of responding to questions that challenge our precious beliefs?

 

Are we willing to sacrifice the belief that we "know" ourselves when clearly we do not?

 

As I said before...

 

We learn from our mistakes. In this respect they are to be treasured.

 

haha spicy I like it. still figuring it out I guess