So as I stated in my journal thread in a different section, I've been PMO'ing and MO'ing for several years now. Started when I was 14 or 15. For some reason, I never thought I was an addict. I just saw it as a stress reliever and a fun activity to do when I was bored. I've only had one girlfriend and we dated 4 years ago. I didn't realize until after we broke up, but she prioritized sex a lot higher than I did. She even cried one night when I denied her sex because I told her our relationship needed to be more meaningful and it couldn't just be about sex all the time. On average, I do the deed once every day and on some days when I'm really bored I'll do it 2 or 3 times. I have NEVER gone beyond 3 times. And I do try to practice moderation by occasionally going 1, 2, or even 3 days without it. I've also been doing MO a lot more lately because I feel that P is a crutch. I relied on P for so long that doing stuff without it (either by myself or with a girl) hurt my ability to orgasm. Other than that, none of this has negatively affected my life. I'm a well-adjusted person surrounded by family and friends whom I loved dearly and I recently graduated from college with pretty good grades. Idk. Maybe I'm just trying to rationalize my problem. Do you think I have an issue that I need to address? I'm new here and I was wondering if you guys could reaffirm or refute this so I could figure out what I should do moving forward.
Hi absolute440. Personally, I think that if you use P to M almost every time and you find it difficult to M without it, you probably do have an 'issue' with P. Only you will know whether it's an addiction but there's so much to gain from doing a reboot in any case. Keep up the good work.
hey, well I thought that when I first started too, thought it didn't apply to me, that I wasn't getting any benefit from this, ect... but the day after, I noticed that I felt better, had loads more time, and I did get an E it felt better (in want of a better word, stronger perhaps?). it is a rocky road that we have to ride, but I think you'll feel the benefits soon. especially if it has, as you said, hurt your ability to O. I would stick with it man. I tried to rationalise it, but I realised I was just looking for an out. JonathanDoe is right about the added benefits. I don't think you have as much of an addiction as some (myself included) but I think you still need this process.
Addiction to smoking is when you can't go a day without smoking, at best 2-3 days. Addiction to watching porn is when you can't go a day without watching porn, at best 2-3 days. So yes, from what I've read in articles and on the forums, I would say your case is an addiction as well. Why would you think it's not? So that you can continue to do it without guilt? The reason that you have doubt to begin with might already indicate that you already half-believe that you have this addiction. I'm relatively new to this as well. And I heard someone once said you'd never know that you have an addiction until you try to quit it for good. (Well apart from foods and water, and other basic survival needs). In fact, I believe my situation is similar to yours. I'm relatively healthy, outgoing, and not stupid, also loved by friends and family. But when I realize I have an addiction, I have to admit to myself so. It won't be easy, but I think you can do it. Anybody can, given enough resources and willpower. Welcome to NoFap. I wish you all the success.
You are rationalizing @absolute440. Just look what you wrote 24 hours before creating this thread... TRIGGER WARNING: https://NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/weird-fetishes.59349/page-3#post-487173
You are a wanker, just like us. An addicted wanker. LOL. Seriously, real sex is where its at. If all males wank to porn, nobody will make babies. PMO addiction is a nasty, sneaky addiction. It looks like nothing. Doesnt seem like damaging. It hurts single males, because they fap instead of dating and further isolate themselves. If hurts couples, because the better half is suffering. It hurts penises also, in the form of erectile dysfunction.
Thanks for the confirmation guys. While I still don't think my problem is that serious, I'll stick around for a while and see if abstinence improves my life.
