i started nofap challenge 1 month ago but i totally fapped 2-3 times a week . but last 7 days were extremely bad . i fapped 1-2 a day (yesterday 3 times ) the reason is that i can't control myself and expectially my anxiety . this period is very hard for me (i have many exam this month); i can't control my frustration and i'm always nervous .i vent my discouragement (and i focused it) on myself (with porn , masturbation and then orgasm) so, my problem is not a willpower problem . i think have a psychological problem and the objective is to find an axiety/frustration substitute . but i don't know what i have to do to resolve this issue . i think that i could talk with a psychologist . but it's not a solution because i have to find a substitute
Hi Leo. From what I've read on these forums, PMO can be directly linked to anxiety. I've heard of guys being diagnosed with depression/anxiety and being prescribed medication only to find that PMO was at the heart of their issues. Of course it's not easy abstaining from PMO but if you can find a substitute, like using this site whenever you get the urge for example, that would be a good start. I'm no doctor but you might find that abstaining from PMO will help reduce your anxiety, frustration and nerves and help you focus a lot better without speaking to a psychologist. One of the great things about this site is you have access to 60,686 'amateur' psychologists whose stories you can learn from. Since starting my journey I certainly feel a lot less anxious than I used to. I dare say I've even started to feel confident. Best of luck.
thank you for your answer . true thing . today , i focused all my energy on other activities that i have to do in this period . it was extremely hard to stay focused on onther thing , because my body and my mind is addicted to it . now i feel a little bit strange (with my mind) but well (with my body) and i think that if i keep focused on other things progressively i will have less anxiety . and also , i could start another sport (ex boxe) that can hel me a lot (now i go to the swimming pool) . however , it's only passed one day and the change of my mindset will be very long and very hard. because i can fall back on PMO
@leo's legacy How about to learn the stuff you need to learn? (I hope, I don't sound like your father) I had the same thing. PMO simply shuts down the stress/anxiety receptors for a moment. On the other hand, that anxiety is there for reason. Find that reason and fix it. For me it was the fear that I will score badly. So I learned it and problem solved. I remember PMO was actually making me more anxious when writing tests on math, physics... I mean, what is there to fear, when you actually know the stuff. Good Luck!
