Hi everyone. I'm 21 years old and this is my #3 go at noFap, this being the first time i actually signed up. I knew i had a problem when my pmo turned in a routine, and i didn't know how to get rid off it. Also i feel like it's destroying my will to socialize and perfect my life. It creates disharmony and depression, and yet the longest i've stayed clean is something about 15 days. But i think i have made that crucial step from thinking i can just flip a switch somewhere and my behaviour will change, to punishing negative behaviour and trying even when i relapse. I am open to advices...what is the best way to deal with urges ?
For a short period of time I'd say a cold shower. If you're having them often, I think you should start focusing in the immediate matters at hand that need fixing like school work etc. It will distract you and you will start appreciating the small things in life and socializing does good to you as far as getting that dopamine rush. Good luck!
maybe identifying what you do when heading towards PMO, like do you browse the computer then eventually cave in (me haha) ? if so go outside or avoid tech for 30mins
also are you able to go out and be social? maybe trying to replace the habit with a social habit could work, and would help show you how being social is more valuable then any PMO
That's mostly the case, but i tried to fix that problem by changing my dns settings so i can't access porn sites at all...the only problem is i know how to remove those restrictions, but in like 40% of the cases it actually stops me from doing it, because it requires effort and meanwhile i can think it through.
