Recent Content by Meshuga

While my friend @UnholyConfessor is harsh with his rhetoric, he’s not wrong. The Alpha/Beta dynamic was used to describe a different, simpler...

Christianity as she is practiced tends to do a fantastic job of identifying behaviors, classifying them, and demanding reform. They like to couch...

Appreciating attractive women isn’t something you’re going to lose. You don’t have to put any effort into retaining that. Just focus on recovery....

I have all the experience with this. It's not good, it's hitting the same buttons in your head that porn does. Don't do it. Question is "how?"...

The One Ring is a reference to J.R.R. Tolkien's books, and Peter Jackson's film adaptation, "The Lord of the Rings." In it, there is an artifact...

Just quoted for truth. But then, you mention an instance with a stranger. It's things like this that I find difficult to comprehend. I understand...

This demonstrates the importance of context. We expect a bear to be in the woods, for instance, so when we go to the woods we accept that a bear...

That’s called a crush. You’re in denial. Yeah maybe, but you’re going to recover out of it. At some point you earn the right to say, “fapping is...

Monitor yourself for the next couple of days. If you have heightened urges, maybe your accidental exposure is to blame. Take note, change your...

There’s a difference between telling yourself you have to do a thing, like quit porn, and developing an actionable plan with contingencies. One...

Could be. It could be that your extensive porn use has altered the way you act, putting women more on guard around you than they used to be. It...

The official terminology is such. A reset is when you violate a parameter of your goal, and you view P, you M, and/or you O. After doing this,...

It doesn’t work, long term. I don’t like to contradict others on the forum, I don’t like to make things harder, I don’t like extreme morality for...

You are in a less than ideal situation right now. Sounds like you need to survive until exams are over, then focus on deep recovery after. Keep...

@Chaos Spayce Marine is correct; you can’t directly control what you feel, but feeding this sense of shame is counterproductive for your recovery....