Recent Content by used19

It’s very difficult for women to not feel insecure with the way media is and the way younger girls dress now. Porn and media has the image of...

I think this is really tricky - I can't even work out my feelings on how I want my husband to look at me. There's a part of me (a vain part I...

My husband tries to use these negative feelings to strengthen his resolve to never do it again. He has been clean a long time now (will be 5...

What you need to also understand, is that from her perspective, every time you went to porn you were throwing her away. You've already sent her...

It is a lot to go through betrayal trauma. You'll see a lot of us significant others staying because by the time we found out we were already...

You may want to look into Dr. Kevin Skinner's work to understand how severe betrayal trauma can be. Many of us spouses have experienced such...

In addition to the things mentioned above, you need to look at what your addiction is doing to her emotionally. I don't know if she knows about...

I think it could be really really good for you two. Getting the connection and being on the same side that you really need in your recovery...

Here's to hoping it goes well. I've been meaning to post here in the past few weeks to redrop a resource in case it helps. I started reading...

It's very encouraging. Remember you can always just ask. Is there anything I can do, right now or today that would help? Or, you seem tired, is...

I don't think you can force her to mother in a way that is not hers. I hold my babies all day because I cherish every moment of baby. I don't...

One of the things we did, after I had read a lot and seen how if an addict wants a real shot at this he's got to eliminate triggers from his...

Based on that she might really relate to the book. It touched on a lot of things people did (or failed to do when they should have) that cut...