I see a lot of guys on here who are lonely, and I hate that for you, I was there a long time. But here is the deal, and I think it's worth your time to read this: 1. You can't just hit and run on these forums. You need to come back and see if people have responded, and read what they say. Just writing about your problems isn't going to change it. Other people here give a care about you because when they help you, they are helping themselves. Don't just type and vanish. 2. If someone gives you a suggestion, don't write it off. This is a big one because usually when someone sees your problem from the outside, they are more likely to offer help that works. You, in your lonely state, can only see sadness, despair, helplessness and fear. Don't be a scoffer, go and do those things that YOU THINK won't work. 3. Put ACTION into these suggestions, put ACTION into your life. Staring into social media, looking at porn, holding a smart phone all day isn't going to help you anymore. You must accept that. There was a time when you had no ramifications from that stuff, now it is a liability. You need to change. You need to work, work out, pray, communicate with people, build things, create art, go places, make a career, get educated. What you don't need is Instagram, Facebook, you tube, and tik tok. I write a rant like this because I was there myself. I was married for 10 years! Don't you think that when something of that length ends, there's going to be some pain? Of course. But you can't just stare into the smart phone and lie around. The action is what will make things change for the better.
Great post. Unfortunate to see these kind of posts hardly receive attention and no discussion ensues about them while negative, defeatist and blaming other people and the whole wide world kind of posts catch fire and run for pages with detailed and lengthy comments.
Thank you for the compliment! Yes, I guess that sometimes posts that aren't as good as mine are more popular..... Hey man, misery loves company.
