Relationship Lonelinnes

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by lildn666, Feb 29, 2024.

  1. lildn666

    lildn666 Fapstronaut

    Bros ı have gf we are happy in most situations but when it comes to sex she seems like she is not interested at all.When ı tell her about it she always has some excuses like hair or she says she is affraid of getting pregnant.This situation really makes me go crazy cause i think like she doesnt want me and she doesnt attracted to me.How can i fix this or what shoul i do in this situation.Im really depressed about it.
     
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  2. Ninjutsu Jukai

    Ninjutsu Jukai Fapstronaut

    Do you live together? Either she is ill or she is fucking someone else.
     
  3. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

    Or she is terrified of getting pregnant, or it hurts and she’s afraid to tell him, or he’s awful in bed and she doesn’t want to hurt his feelings, or she’s very self conscious so is embarrassed, or her hormones are whack so she has no libido or she is not that attracted to him, or she masturbates so doesn’t have a drive ……
     
  4. After reading your post @lildn666, I just wanted to commend you on your profile picture. Nailed it.
     
  5. Khufu

    Khufu Fapstronaut

    have you introduced her to the nofap communty and encouraged her to start an account , female sex drive is just as high as male ,just as long as if your both pmo free, relationships is a psycholical game, not really what you physically do, mostly whats happening up stairs in your big brain
     
  6. Syphax

    Syphax Fapstronaut

    It sounds like you're going through a tough time, and it's understandable that you feel frustrated and depressed about the situation. Here's some advice that might help you navigate this delicate issue:

    1. Communicate Openly and Honestly: Sit down with your girlfriend and have an open, honest conversation about how you're feeling. Explain that you feel hurt and rejected when she avoids intimacy, and that it’s affecting your mental health. Ask her to share her feelings as well. Communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to understand each other’s perspectives.

    2. Understand Her Concerns: If she’s afraid of getting pregnant, talk about contraceptive options together. There are many effective methods available that can reduce this anxiety. If her concerns are related to other factors like stress, body image, or past experiences, try to be supportive and understanding.

    3. Seek Professional Help: If open communication doesn’t lead to improvement, consider seeking help from a professional therapist or counselor. A therapist can provide a safe space for both of you to express your feelings and work through any underlying issues.

    4. Reflect on the Relationship: Think about the overall dynamics of your relationship. Are there other areas where she might feel unsupported or misunderstood? Sometimes issues in intimacy can stem from broader relationship problems.

    5. Be Patient and Compassionate: It’s important to approach this situation with patience and compassion. Pressuring her for sex can lead to more resistance and resentment. Show that you care about her feelings and well-being.

    6. Self-Care: Take care of your own mental health as well. Talk to friends, engage in activities that make you happy, and consider individual therapy if you’re feeling depressed.
    And regarding your additional thoughts:

    • Ask if She Understands Your Feelings: Gently ask her if she knows how much this issue is affecting you. She might not fully realize the extent of your depression over this matter.

    • Politeness and Respect: It’s great that you’re trying to be polite and respectful. Maintaining this attitude will help in any conversation you have with her.
    Remember, every relationship has its challenges, and addressing them together can make your bond stronger. It’s your life, and I hope you can figure it out. All the best.
     
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  7. fredisthebes

    fredisthebes Fapstronaut

    Yes, it could be lots of reasons. Has she had a pregnancy 'scare' in the past? Or one of her close friends/relatives perhaps? Maybe you can enjoy being intimate in ways that don't hold risk of pregnancy and take it from there.

    An ex of mine was on antidepressants, and her sex drive dropped to absolute zero for months and months. Which wasn't great! It returned when she finally came off them, though.
     
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  8. terrible-chocolate

    terrible-chocolate Fapstronaut

    Yes. I dated a girl for a couple months. Sex was NEVER a thing because she was on ssri. I'm not Brad Pitt but I think im moderately attractive on good days

    She has 0 sexual drive, she wouldn't even joke or discuss it except for one time