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Am I straight, bi or gay?

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Straus, Jul 13, 2019.

  1. 321goals

    321goals Fapstronaut

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    good question. im a virgin too but at a young age i was molesetd by my older brother (we since talked about it and i am over it) but before we talked i always thought guys are my “thing” it was till i engaged in gay sex where im seen to be a twink. which means im the one getting dicked, i embraced it for a while but the more i go the more i realize i dont like this, its not comfortable at all. i always enjoyed jerking off could that mean my sensors are in the penis but again i used to exhaust myself and get a girl when its time to engage im sex my penis wont get hard. so i started thinking maybe i am guy only to find out that i dont know what pussy feels like how can i be gay if i havent tried having sex with a girl
     
  2. 321goals

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    morale of the story can one be gay just because they are sensitive and are not deemed “alpha males” in society and can one say they gay if they have never engaged in sex with a famale
     
  3. One is gay when you feel attracted to men and love men. Alpha males you find amongst gays too. Some even had sex with females, like me. But I‘d say I am gay. It‘s sth you still are when not having sex ;)
     
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  4. 321goals

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    i know the feeling of jerking off and with guys i enjoy watching them jerk off cause i know what that feels like, i mean i can’t jerk off to pussy when i dont even know what it feels like, basically what i’m saying is that i only watched porn if a guy is in there otherwise wouldnt turn me on. Does that mean i’m gay
     
  5. Straight is not being into pussies. Straight is not jerking off to pussy porn. Straight is not reducing women to sex objects.

    You are gay when you feel like going for a walk with the man you love, when you feel like hugging the man you love, cooking with the man you love, going on holiday with the man you love, laughing with the man you love, climbing mountains with the man you love, go shopping with the man you love, build on a common future with the man you love, sleep with the man you love, look into the man's eyes and say: I love you.
    Read this:
    Gay, Bi or not? Why me?

    Helpful?
     
  6. 321goals

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    omg. thank u so much, that means i’m not gay cause i treat dudes like sex objects but really want to build with a woman. ive never imagined my life with a dude
     
  7. Good, so leave the guys alone, physically and mentally, and enjoy your straight life.
    That was quick. You are a good student.
     
  8. 321goals

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    cause i never enjoyed being with a dude, and the sex but i enjoyed the porn nonetheless. thank teacher
     
  9. 321goals

    321goals Fapstronaut

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    but i wont be available sometimes here isnt there a whatsapp group where we post our journey?
     
  10. Stop watching gay porn, stop watching ANY porn.
     
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  12. Straus

    Straus Fapstronaut

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    Fuck i relapsed guys. After 8 days without pmo. I saw cute feet of a girl in the Internet and i couldnt resist to the urge. I try it again, so long till i get that 90 days.
     
  13. verbeek75

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    well I failed at 7, so you got 1 day more then me, let's try our best and get to those 90 days.
     
  14. 321goals

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    i failed at 2 days after convincing myself i could watch porn without jerking.
     
  15. 2 days looking at food and not eating. Not bad. I wouldn’t last a day.
     
  16. 321goals

    321goals Fapstronaut

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    tell me about it. im 4days in now and im already tempted to watch some porn. i need this and i wont
     
  17. Straus

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    Guys i need help

    Can someone tell me what the difference ist between HOCD and Gay in Denial?

    The last days i was checking myself again. I got aroused to pictures of naked women and dont aroused at pictures of naked men. Then i am good for a while but then comes the anxiety again and i overthinking this. If i tell me ok you are bisexual what should happen now, something cant accept it really inside me. Its easy to meet a guy for hook up and have sex with him but i dont want it, even if i tell me i am bisexual. I read that HOCD people worried about the fact
    That they might be gay and gay men in denial are more worried what they friends and family think about it.

    Well in my case it is both. I actually check me everyday to see if i like girls or guys or both too see what my sexuality is. I imagine relationships with a girl and a guy. This things feel good with a girl with a guy sometimes disturbing but sometimes there is just a fear if it feels good it means i am gay and i am afraid about it. But the fact that i will maybe lose my family and friends if i would be gay worries me.

    If i tell to me i am straight comes the anxiety again and i overthinking this

    So can anyone tell me is this HOCD or Denial?

    Thx for reading
     
  18. Obviously you are not HOCD in denial ;) You don't like the idea of being bi or gay you say. Cause you worry what society thinks or says. Why not liberating you from all these opinions and start embracing the fact that you are who you are, unique.

    If you see a girl you like, you like. If you see a guy you like, you like. If you look in the mirror and see yourself and you like, well then, you like. You like ... then you like. You don't ... then you don't.

    If you want to eat a burger, enjoy a burger, and not worry whether you are a vegetarian in denial or suffering from a Nutrition Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

    Your problem might be you are obsessed with labels, obsessed with having to nail it, to know for now and eternity, so you can carve it in stone and have business cards printed with - 1000% Approved Straight - on it or - Evidence Based Not Gay.

    Why do you need our opinion? Do you wait for one of us, who don't know you, to tell you ... noooooo you are not gay. You are fine.

    What exactly is your problem?
     
  19. Straus

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    I just want to know my true sexuality but i dont know how.
     
  20. Here‘s how; Get comfortable with not knowing. Not knowing is the answer for you right now.
    Instead of frantically grasping for an answer and crushing each and every single one the moment it shows up, get out of your head, connect with your sensations, your feelings and perceive all that comes without judging, condemning, explaining, justifying, analyzing. Let the answers come to you, just listen and smile at them.
     

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