Should there continue to be a women's only section on nofap. Why or why not?

I feel that most women are more comfortable to post in that section as they rarely post in other sections of the forum.
I think we need women's opinions here not mine though.

 

Yes, why not?

 

@M L @Super-Yoshi @Josie @Smarties @SecretsRevealed @sandra
@purifyme @Melody @Jae @Anne-Dauphine @Strugglesaurus
I think your opinions are very important here.

 

I say yes there should still be a women's section because I don't want to trigger any guys and I'm more comfortable posting on the women's section. But I think they should keep it the way it is because if they add a LGBT or Christian section, they're going to have to add other religions and other things later on because people associate with different things. Also it's simple keeping it men, women, and age groups. It gives you the freedom to choose whatever you like without going over broad with too many opitions.

Also I feel like it would be harder to find the women if they took it away because there's more guys on this site than women.

But guys do go onto the women's forums to spread support, which I'm very thankful for. It's nice to have support. So it goes either way, but I really do hope that they keep the women's section.

 

Thanks for bringing this to my attention.
I would like to have men's feedback sometimes, mostly bc there are significantly fewer women.... and men would probably like to have female feedback also.
This site needs to be optimized for trigger avoidance though. The women's section seems a little segregated, but I was fearful of posting on male journals....

 

I feel both yes and no. Yes, because then men can avoid us if they wish, and we can find each other more easily.

And no, because it makes us a target. People read for thrills. My journals had a ridiculous number of views before I deleted them. I've answered posts where people ask "should I read in the women's section?" as though it's a place they will find triggers.

 

I personally would like a LGBT section in the forum, but I would also participate in the other sections as well. I don't want to isolate myself from the others or anything. @alexander mentioned adding groups back, so that may be a good option because there could be a group for women, sexual orientation, religions, etc.

 

Well, for one, I believe that the women's forum may cause newbie women to feel unwelcome in other areas because it reinforces us as a minority in the fight against porn addiction. Such as, "Here is your section, the rest is for the men." Though of course not so rudely, just a simplified message that I think is expressed by the separation of women and men. I decided to post in an age group when I arrived because I wanted help from all genders and to get my story out there that women also struggle with this. I do think it's best to do what you're most comfortable with, though.

I understand your point but when the groups function reappears, we would have groups for many things, such as Partners of Addicts, Women, LGBT, Christians, etc. This would alleviate any fears women may have to come in contact with one another on the forums to share their experiences and receive advice.

I have seen this too. I have also seen questions like, "Why do you masturbate?" and, "Is Nofap even as beneficial for women as it is for men?" in the Women's section. When any one group of people is sectioned off from others, I can see them being questioned for their choices or beliefs, in women, religion, or LGBT sections.

We are supposed to be a community, and I think we should be one whole community. Groups can be made to alleviate any concerns with contacting those of similar beliefs, sexuality, and gender. Hell, even now, anyone can post a thread looking for specific answers from certain people. This would be possible even if the Women's section were removed.

 

Why not let the women decide?

 

@Strugglesaurus I actually felt welcomed when I saw there was a women's section. When I read about community, it said there was less than 10% of women on here. I think it was even less than 5% and I felt discouraged because I thought it would be awkward trying to explain to men why I want to quit masturbating, even though some of them might get off on that type of thing. Also this site kind of seemed to be promoting help for men, so I kind of believed it was only for men. So when I actually checked out the forums before I came here, I actually felt comforted about the fact that women had a place to post their journals of their journey. And the fact that it says "WOMEN" should clue in to men that there might be triggers in that forum. So they should just stay away.

I think the reason why they go to our forum to ask their questions about it is because there want to be enlighten, or they already know that they shouldn't be in that forum if it triggers them, so they're just seeing women confirming the thoughts they're already thinking.

 

@SecretsRevealed I think you misunderstood me somewhat. I meant that women might feel unwelcome in other areas and not feel comfortable posting on men's journals or participating in discussions across other sub forums. I was actually pleasantly surprised to find there was a women's forum when I joined. It definitely made me feel less alone. Last year, however, there weren't as many women as there are now, so it was quite slow!

I'm very glad that women who join have a place to journal their thoughts and see they aren't alone, I just try to promote an equal environment whenever I can. I would love to see more women posting in other sections, besides the ones I see the most like @Blondewife and @M L, and I think the specific section for women is a barrier in this regard.

 

@Strugglesaurus - I understand what you mean about how it could make women feel more welcome. Sometimes I wish there was a LGBT section. Not sure why they only cater to gender and age on here. I guess if they broke it down by sexuality too, they would have to consider other categories like religions. I'm interested in seeing what the "groups" are like. I understand that may be coming back.

 

This is a weird topic for me and I don't know if I feel drawn in any direction. On one hand, I don't like the segregation of having a "woman's only" section. We're all in this together regardless of any attribute we may identify ourselves with, be it sex, gender, height, weight, weirdness, whatever... however, women have been treated as less than men for so long that maybe the women here would feel safer by having a women's only section. As far as the women's only section goes, maybe we should let the women of this forum decide if that's something they want for themselves instead of the rest of us deciding for them.

I also think that having a religious section would be wonderful as well. I'm an atheist and would love to connect with more atheists on this forum. No offense to the wonderful people of religious mindsets but I find myself getting tired and frustrated when I read posts laced with religious ideology and dogma. I also find that I feel more alone when I read this kind of thing because I just don't see the world the way religious people do and want more connection with like-minded people. Maybe sections would help relieve that.