Don't hate women not liking you.

NoFap can make you feel like something's owed to you. If you read success stories about guys who effortlessly pick up chicks you might expect that for yourself after a certain amount of time, but that's stupid. Don't walk around with a scowl on your face because you're cool or like James Bond. I had a habit of listening to music on the train, the type that gets me hype, I realise it creates a separation from me and my surrounds which is something I no longer need to do.

Be approachable, don't be stoic all the time, it's not necessary be open friendly with those you meet, don't play hard to get, just be free. In my head I feel that i'm owed something for reaching 6 months, when it's not true at all haha

After a certain amount of time closing yourself off and being isolated only hurts you and stops a potential interaction. So stay present, you dont need stimuli to take your attention anywhere else you're strong enough now.

 

Great approach. Indeed, when you shut life out, eventually life will shut you out.

 

Indeed it's my loss. That's very childish on my part to shut off expecting them to come to me miraculously. And besides even if they were to do that, and she was interested in a relationship, what a sh*tty way of meeting! That's not mature at all! Theres fewer things more mature a person can do than taking a hold of thier sexuality.

 

THANK YOU! You have no idea how many times I've wanted to say the words in the title of this thread. People are so entitled these days. It's like if you like a girl and flirt with her or hang out with her a lot and she doesn't like you, then, "Oh damn, she just friendzoned you. What a bitch." As if you having a romantic interest in her means that she owes you reciprocation. Um no. That's not how life works.

 

I expect a woman to do all the work, because i'm suchhh a badass because i'm into personal development and have so much sh*t going for me...NO! That's stupid. That means i should be more approachable if anything, I dont want to close them off from my world. I'm not mean like that lol

 

True fact. I don't think "playing hard to get" is a very kind thing for either gender to do. Everyone has nerves around approaching/talking to someone they like when they don't know if their feelings are reciprocated, so we should all just be open and honest about our feelings and not make people squirm for no reason.

 

hi i am new here how long do it take to be superman powers?

 

Indeed it's very childish its a lie we tell ourselves to protect our egos, nofap has given me the power to avoid using my ego!

 

I've noticed this in myself, for literally years I was way too hung up about things, pretty damn neurotic, I still have moments, but recently maybe its reaching the age of 30 I dunno, I have noticed a shift in myself, I am way more open and easy going than I was say 3 or 4 years ago, forget about when I was in my early 20s, I was a fucking mess.

but recently, I've been super chill about life and I have noticed interest from women far more than ever before in my life, I've become friends with more females too in recent months too.


Success stories do happen, but it involved a lot of inner work.... which at times can be outside of PMO and NoFap, doing the inner work and facing yourself, is the best thing you can do to help yourself, its not an easy ride whatsoever, you may find things about yourself, you despise, but I would say to folks starting on this trip, that don't view every negative set back as a bad thing, I tell you that from experience, try and be easy on yourself, learn from your mistakes and grow each time.

Even in NoFap, if you relapse, take what you can from your streak and try to grow as a person each time.

 

Correct. But I think what the implication is here isn't hating (the way) women (perceive you), it's just... hating women. Because they aren't interested in you romantically. At least that's what I got from the thread. Which is something that happens a LOT and it is ridiculous.